Re: Will you refuse a girl if…
Look there are two scenarios: if, like in my office, when it’s lunchtime and someone kind of casually shouts “I’m going to the canteen anyone want to come?” i.e. the question is open, and a group of you, male and female, end up going - fine. Not a problem.
Scenario two is if your female colleague specifically walks over to your desk and says “hey, I’m going to get lunch - you wanna come?”. That’s a no.
I don’t know. I guess sometimes you get stuck in these situations where e.g. you end up having to sit next to a colleague of the opposite gender in a meeting, or have to work closely with them. Whatever. Just as long as the sharam and haya is there in those situations it’s not a big deal. I get what you mean that sometimes it can casually happen - but if somebody makes a point of going on lunches with a member of the opposite sex, so that it starts to become a habit… so that it wills that female to specifically walk past all other desks and walk over to HIS desk and say “hey, let’s grab lunch…” well that’s not on, is it?