S_and_S
March 19, 2014, 12:41am
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I just think that if you find your spouse (or in this thread a SIL) of somehow being disrespectful/inappropriate because of casual work lunches then the problem isn’t with them doing it necessarily, it’s with your insecurities about your marriage or possibly yourself.
If you suspect them actually engaging in inappropriate behavior outside of the work setting - in your example phone calls and an over friendly personal relationship - that’s of course an issue because there’s a clear line between what’s appropriate and what’s not. In my opinion. But that doesn’t mean all and every lunch is inappropriate, I think you have to consider a persons behavior over having lunch together.
Nai nai S and S-jee. It’s a matter of where you draw your boundaries. You’ve just said phone calls are stepping over the line for you - whereas others have argued that a casual phone call is okay. So, are YOU insecure about your relationship?
I draw the line at out-of-necessity interactions; be it lunches, phone calls, socialising after work. All that jazz. I don’t deem it necessary to engage with one-on-one social interactions with members of the opposite sex unless you don’t have a choice. If the guy can choose who he has lunch with - don’t choose a girl. Simple.
Wow this thread went so far in one day. What I meant was intention of a phone call and over friendly behavior for something more than just a casual friendship. My husband has co-workers blowing up his email and phone till 2AM - mostly wanting to crunch numbers.