Will you refuse a girl if...............

[Sehrysh]

Re: Will you refuse a girl if…

@Ghost14

Would placing yourself in a position to stray from your commitments be a smart idea? I know for damn sure that if I find a coworker attractive, I’m not going to be having lunch dates with her. Why risk that?

Would you let your child run with scissors, as long as you explain the dangers to them? You throw enough temptation at someone and anyone would break. We’re all only human.

And I’m not saying that every platonic relationship is going to turn into a romantic one. I have a female friend I’m very close with. Or rather, I was very close with. We don’t hang out as much since she got married. And she’s not desi either. So this type of thinking is not a religious or cultural thing.

@pwner

Thats a bit extreme. What is being said is that there is always a possibility for people to err/slip. Assumption of fidelity doesn’t completly remove the possiblity of things going idhar udhar.

And assumption of remaining in saat parda with limited interaction with the opposite gender also doesn’t completely remove the possibility of infidelity.

Here’s the thing, I’m not disagreeing with the idea that interaction with the opposite gender needs to be balanced carefully and that certain interaction is either on its face inappropriate or is a recipe for disaster.

All I’m saying is that platonic friendships between guys and girls is possible and shouldn’t be a conclusion of a bad character of either of a person.