Re: Will i be doing the right thing by breaking up with him?
In a relationship where both people respect one another…issues…especially major ones regarding where they will settle down is discussed and decided on a mutual basis. According to OP herself even thought he has told her he will work towards settling aboard, he has not done anything to prepare for it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with him changing his mind. However…what is wrong and shows lack of respect is him not bringing this up and letting her know verbally that he has changed his mind OR that he’s thinking of changing his mind.
He may be bold enough to make that decision to stay back…but he’s not bold enough to actually share that decision with the woman he supposedly loves/respects. OP and the rest of us are left ASSUMING what’s going through his mind based on his actions which do not match the words coming out of his mouth. And if he’s not capable of sharing his thoughts and actually having a mature verbal discussion about something this big right now…it’s certainly not going to change when it comes to other big issues after marriage.
Either way…as you stated already…their goals are different so it really doesn’t matter how its worded. In order to go against one’s parents for a guy…a girl needs to be darn sure that he will stick by her through thick and thin, and their future goals are identical. And in this case, this certainly isn’t the guy that meets that criteria.