My friend wants to fit in these goriyans that she sees outside or meet everyday. I mean she has everything and her husband has provided her with everything. She has a nice loving husband who not only loves her, but also respects her. You can say that he is the man who knows how to treat a woman. He has given her almost about everything. From nice ghar to nice furniture, from pyar to respect, from clothing to jewelry. Also I have seen some men who tell their wives that they shall like this and that, but her husband doesn’t mind her wearing anything be it western/desi clothing. All he asks her is to dress in such manner that when you are out there, people not only look at you with buri nazar, but respect you.
He said straight up NO and it lead to a huge argument.
She is always fighting with him over little small things. He is always doing the explanation where on the other hand she is always trying to bring up something to argue about or change the the enviornment of living.
So my question is that why do some women behave like this. I mean you have everything that a woman look for in a man.
Why be “Not Shukran” to Allah swt for what he has given you. I mean look at those people out there who are dieing to be fed, those living on the streets, those who do not have a loving husband, those who do not have a family, those who may have health problems and etc.
Coz some ppl have always had everything they needed in their life...so they don't know how to appreciate those things and take it for granted!! Coz they have no idea what it is to live without all the blessings they have been given!
I wanted to attend a party in my chaddi only. Wife said no. is my wife Na-shukran?
I get what you are trying to say, but sometime you have to understand your hubby as well. I mean why marry then when there is no understanding or such thing like that.
Some people are brought up spoilt or always get they’re way. In this case its the woman. I think the mentality behind this is the fact she wants to fit in maybe? Some of the things you said sound like the girl just needs a wake up call. There is only so much a man can take. He seems to be someone who cares a lot about self respect, self worth and doesn’t want his misses being looked at in a negative way.
Sahih Bukhari 1:2:28
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: “I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you.”
He should have told her to go for it and should have told her that he will accompany her to that party and he should have started hitting on other half naked women that will teach her.
Well generally speaking in such case - probably she doesn’t want other to notice what she knows
Gotchya TLK - one love
May be thats the reason the guy in this story is not letting his wife to wear this dress - who knows if she feels insecure at party while looking at other assets and comes back with a demand of Plastic surgery , which will be eventually paid from his pocket !
some people take things for granted and then regret later… she is in a swing at the moment coz she has everything … guess her husband need to step up and make her realize that this is not to be taken for granted..
some people take things for granted and then regret later... she is in a swing at the moment coz she has everything ... guess her husband need to step up and make her realize that this is not to be taken for granted..
You are right! She is ina swing mood, well always its not something new. I feel that she should stop because she will never find a man out there like her hubby if he leaves her or divorce her(god forbids).
its not that her husband is telling her a NO or YES but she should know her religious boundaries before anyone tells her anything. i’ll say speak to her (if possible) and tell her its not about your husband saying no or yes but being a muslim do you really think this is how you should be behaving. otherwise keep on praying for your friend.
there is a whole range of western clothes out there ... and a lot of them arent that skin-happy. did she pick that dress up only to even out with her husband not appreciating the bhindi she made the night before?
