Ok so I am not discussing this from a religious point of view, this is a more of a cultural/social point of view.
Does fullfilling the stereotypical wifely duties maintain harmony in the home?
e.g. Cooking, ironing your husbands clothes for him, doing the majority of cleaning etc etc
Or in this day and age are things like this not important ?
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Very important...............
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Nope it doesn't guarantee any harmony. its good to do but its nto gonig to guarantee happiness and harmony.
Attitude, character, etc, counts for alot too.
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how about if i reverse the question..
would not doing it cause disharmony?
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would not doing it cause disharmony?
yes..
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**i believe that if you share the life/house/kids together then you must share the responsibilities together to the best of the abilities both possess. it doesn't have to be qualitatively or quantitatively EQUAL but it should be to the best of their ability.
miyaaN biwii ko apnii apnii zimmedaariyaaN "dil se" adaa karnii chaahiyeN!!! :)**
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as sara said it doesnt guarantee harmony but ... not doing it can cause disharmony...agar itne chotte chotte kaam karne se ghar ka sukoon barkaraar reh sakta hai then why not do them
and seriously as long as u think of them as duties/chores ...they will be ...khushi se karo there's nothing wrong with taking care of ur own house
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**i believe that if you share the life/house/kids together then you must share the responsibilities together to the best of the abilities both possess. it doesn't have to be qualitatively or quantitatively EQUAL but it should be to the best of their ability.
miyaaN biwii ko apnii apnii zimmedaariyaaN "dil se" adaa karnii chaahiyeN!!! :)**
^^nice
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as sara said it doesnt guarantee harmony but ... not doing it can cause disharmony...agar itne chotte chotte kaam karne se ghar ka sukoon barkaraar reh sakta hai then why not do them
and seriously as long as u think of them as duties/chores ...they will be ...khushi se karo there's nothing wrong with taking care of ur own house
I dont actually consider them duties in the chore sense of the word hence the 'duties' because I couldnt think of a better word.
Im not even married, but I do help alot round the house because my dad loves a clean organized home so i do it to keep him happy and it just got me thinking will it be same when I get married.
I mean nothing makes me happier then seeing my dad happy and sitting happily after work in a clean organised home as he loves it.
My dad does alot of work too, on the weekend my mum rests and my dad does cooking, cleaning, washing etc
But i think the reason why I do it especially with my dad in mind because he appreciates it so much and results in a happy home
so yeah just wondering if its the same in marrige
im just repeating myself haha
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Yes
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^^nice
thanx ji :)
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Ok so I am not discussing this from a religious point of view, this is a more of a cultural/social point of view.
Does fullfilling the stereotypical wifely duties maintain harmony in the home?
e.g. Cooking, ironing your husbands clothes for him, doing the majority of cleaning etc etc
Or in this day and age are things like this not important ?
Yes and not limited to these.
What is stereotypical in it?
If man works and not enough money to throw around because of expenses and to save money, why can't the wife do all these?
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hehe ...well u may not get **exactly **the same kind of **encouragement **from ur husband and in laws as u do from ur father... so dont go in there expecting that and then getting disappointed when u dont get that kind of encouragement instead look for other subtle clues that tell u that u are being appreciated
I dont actually consider them duties in the chore sense of the word hence the 'duties' because I couldnt think of a better word.
Im not even married, but I do help alot round the house because my dad loves a clean organized home so i do it to keep him happy and it just got me thinking will it be same when I get married.
I mean nothing makes me happier then seeing my dad happy and sitting happily after work in a clean organised home as he loves it.
My dad does alot of work too, on the weekend my mum rests and my dad does cooking, cleaning, washing etc
But i think the reason why I do it especially with my dad in mind because he appreciates it so much and results in a happy home
so yeah just wondering if its the same in marrige
im just repeating myself haha
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hehe ...well u may not get **exactly **the same kind of **encouragement **from ur husband and in laws as u do from ur father... so dont go in there expecting that and then getting disappointed when u dont get that kind of encouragement instead **look for other subtle clues **that tell u that u are being appreciated
You know what those subtle clues are?
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You know what those subtle clues are?
everyone has a different way bro...im just saying if a girl goes into her in laws home expecting that everytime she cooks or cleans or irons someone's shirt they're going to say thank you, you're doing a wonderful job...
that wont necessarily happen, but if u there is otherwise mutual love, respect and understanding then that is the subtle clue...its just that no one is directly going to say thank u for ironing my shirt... maybe it'll just be a smile maybe nothing at all ...like i said as long as the girl gets the respect and love...then that should be encouragement enough
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llxxll. Your parents raised you very well!! Hats off to your mother.
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So that is what youu meant subtle clues. Very nice! Agreed. 
Must you be so nice in Life1 and not fight? 
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i brokeded some rules didnt I?
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yes they did ... but im still not as wonderful as my mom
llxxll. Your parents raised you very well!! Hats off to your mother.
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Yap you are not a hater!. Lets celebrate.. ;)