Emotional infidelity is a serious issue and perhaps extremely underrated for something that's actually lot more common than physical infidelity. It's poisonous and no you don't have to "date" to get emotional attached and dependent on someone.
"out of limits" friendship can mess up your professional life, it's bizarre and totally sad to see people advocating that something like should be totally acceptable in marriage at the expense of hurting other partner's feelings and jeopardizing the whole relationship.
This is stuff you should have straightened out before you said "qabool". What seems to be the problem? Are you scared that shes gonna get too close to them? Or that you arent getting enough time and attention from her?
Just as a side note - it really sickens me the way some of you have made some, quite frankly laughable assumptions
Emotional infidelity is a serious issue and perhaps extremely underrated for something that's actually lot more common than physical infidelity. It's poisonous and no you don't have to "date" to get emotional attached and dependent on someone.
"out of limits" friendship can mess up your professional life, it's bizarre and totally sad to see people advocating that something like should be totally acceptable in marriage at the expense of hurting other partner's feelings and jeopardizing the whole relationship.
But why are we assuming she's having affairs?
the issue isn't interactions with opposite genders, but what the expectations were before marriage and how close these friendships are.
Also, I'm not that religious but even I find it laughable that people are comparing friendships to our Prophet SAW interactions' with men and women....like, seriously?
the issue isn't interactions with opposite genders, but w*hat the expectations were before marriage and how close these friendships are.*
^ This. Seems like another case of 2 people who married one another without making sure that their religious values, and future expectations from their spouse is the same.
Honestly I keep losing this damn post. So here is the summary:
He should trust her. Paramount basis of the relationship.
Why is he jealous? Is he jealous because she is ignoring him and spending more time with other men? Then yes he has a right to be jealous and discuss the matter with her.
If there are no reasons for his jealousy and he is just being a fool he should check himself.
Lets see if I can elaborate on this further without losing the post. It is important he trust his wife. That is the basis for all relationships. It is the basis for anything past present and future. If there is none of that there can not be a relationship to speak off. So I agree with Shimmer that he needs to trust her.
Yes there are many loop holes and we do not know why he has been acting in the manner he has. He can not stop his wife from having any male friends just by his own will. That is unfair and disrespectful. Also yes he should have known about that before marriage and it should have been sorted then.
The question the remains is why is he being jealous or asking his wife not to meet with certain people. It could be a multitude of reasons and each reason leads to a different out come and different line of thought. Too many trees and branches to deal with.
But I agree trust is paramount and I agree that it is necessary to discuss it with her. But the wife also needs to ensure that his feelings are paramount in the relationship and if he is uncomfortable for a valid reason she should acknowledge that and try to accommodate his feelings.
he has communicated the matter to her and she is being defensive about it cuz obviously woh kuch galat nai kar rahi.
I agree with the compromises part but why does the girl have to compromise when her intentions are pure why can the guy ever be a lil more understanding to her choices.
male chauvinist much?!
A guilty person can also argue defensively. I'm not accusing the wife of being guilty as we don't have much info to go by. I'm only saying a defensive tone is not a definite indication of innocence.
In the real world you cannot depend solely upon your intentions. Since you can't be sure of the other person's intentions, you do have to be careful with how you act and the messages you might be unintentionally sending.
Closing this thread for now. No reason to keep it open without the OP clarifying certain things. Areeb: If you want this re-opened, please PM me or one of the other mods in this forum.
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