Re: wife had extramarital affair… what to tell family
Pay attention to what OP wrote (see part in red below). OP wrote something that’s a concern for the husband/father which is very wise. Husband isn’t hiding the cheating for wife’s reputation…he’s doing it for his SON! Because knowing desi people…if husband’s family finds out about the affair, sooner or later the son (while still a child/teenager) will hear nasty comments about his mother. It’s one thing for the son to find out as an adult about his mother’s affair…but its very wise of the father to make sure that the son doesn’t hear nasty comments while still young by hiding the affair from extended family. NOTHING good will come out revealing her affair. 2 adults (both husband and wife in this case) have decided that they don’t want to stay married to one another. Everyone else needs to respect their decision and not nag them to reveal person details which are none of their business.
As I wrote above, I think the husband’s decision is wise. I would tell him to go ahead and file for the divorce. He doesn’t need his mother’s permission to finalize it. Once the divorce is finalized, after a few weeks/months…his mother will stop nagging him about it. Revealing the affair to his family right now will bring nothing but heartache for him AND his son.