In Pakistan is it normal for the wife to give regular orders to the husband to do housework xyz? I understand if she is very tired or unwell but normally? On my visits to Pakistan I have never seen men do housework is it considered embarassing?
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Those kamchors need to start helping out at home. God knows the country needs it.
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If you want to get laid regularly.......then you must follow her orders regularly.
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East or west...why does one have to 'order' the spouse ??....
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Uhm he needs to massage my feet on top of all the housework he will be doing. Bewaqoof mard
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Actually Pakistan is not on Mars, that it has totally different situation that the whole world. Although you can say it for many other locations too. Specially in Arab countries!
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I don't like the word "orders" him. Asks him to do something would be more appropriate.
I don't know which people you are interacting with, and from which city but I spent 2 months in Lahore this summer and wherever I went, I saw husbands helping out their wives. Bringing out the plates, helping out with the cooking etc. My uncle even made a whole menu of iftari by himself one day for all of us.
If you have love, understanding and compromise between the couple, I don't think the husband would mind doing something for the wife, related to housework. Be it Pakistan or the West.
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why is housework synonymous to ordering? its HIS house too!!! if my husband vaccums OUR house, he is not doing me a favor because he lives here too! if he changes HIS baby's diapers, hes not doing me a favor! its his kid too.
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In Pakistan, usually even the wives don’t do any housework as they have maids doing everything, so why does the husband need to do any? Besharam zanana mard 
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Having said that, most women are so used to giving orders to their maids that they usually carry that tone when dealing with other family members as well 
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Woe, to those people who treat their maids and servants harshly. For someone from North America ( not use to constant servants) its truly shocking the way people treat maids/servants like sub humans over there. Just cause there is so much poverty and availability of cheap labor.
I mean we get the odd illegal immigrant Mexican mowing our lawn or doing some housework, but you never treat them bad. “Hey driver” or “wtf where is my food” etc…seriously when they die they will have to answer for that.
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Back to the original question. The prophet use to help out in his house when he could, so its in our religion. However, I don't think his wives ordered him around, no way.
No real man should get ordered around by his wife, be a ****ing man, if you let her boss you around she will never ever respect you. In reality she wants you to take charge and lead the way.
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Yaaayyy..comeon EDAL, you can do it!! One more , this time left one from underneath.. knock 'em out. 
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it is the woman's job to obey not to give orders .. the man is the greater more dominant sex .. this is in the Quran .. so i dont understand why people are confused about this ..
n what kind of a besharm lady will make her father or husband do work in the home and boss him around when she is there? .. this type of woman will burn in hell and on this earth will never be truly happy .. she will get punishments on this earth as well as the after life .. remember this do not forget Islam and woman's place in it if u call urself a Musalman
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^Soni…as MissTY said above…why should it be seen as “bossing”? A husband and wife should be a team. And it depends upon a person’s manner of speaking as well. “Bossing” is offensive…it doesn’t matter if it’s done by a man or a woman. But there’s nothing wrong with asking your spouse to help you out. And in a marriage…where two individuals are very comfortable with another…sometimes the formality of asking may not even be used. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. The Prophet SAWS did chores around the house…he mended his own clothes and shoes and tended to other household tasks. Does that make his wives “less” Muslim? What if the wife is busy or sick or out of town…the husband can’t do things around the house or he can’t be asked to help out with something? There needs to be a balance…as opposed to veering off to extremes. I understand you’re getting married but what is up with the Sati Savitri notions of late? 
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^ i said when she is **in the home
y are u brining sativ savitri in this? ..this is the way it is .. either u accept it or u dont .. but u cant change an entire system that has been around forever almost**
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^ i said when she is **in the home
**y are u brining sativ savitri in this? ..this is the way it is .. either u accept it or u dont .. but u cant change an entire system that has been around forever almost
LMAO.......so did you think I was talking about when they're outside the home in some park or at a hotel???? I was ALSO talking about when they're both at home. Again, bossing in general is rude. But asking your husband to help you out with something is not wrong. I gave you the example of the Prophet SAWS.....why didn't you say anything about that eh? He didn't have to be asked to help around the house.....he did the chores himself. IT did not make him or his wives less Musalman. See, that's the thing.....you can either be a part of the society with twisted views.....or you can try your best to be part of the positive change. My dad was born and raised in Pak.....he cooks over the weekends......he makes chai for my mom......he helps out with the gardening.....he actively helps out my mom when we have a gathering......he takes an interest in the home. That doesn't make him or my mom less musalman. My mom does not boss him around. He doesn't boss her around. The respect one another. Relationships and roles are not always black and white.....some blurring can take place and one has to be flexible. There are many views in our desi society that are very very very old and very very very jahil. We can either complain about them for years to come or try to be a part of positive change. You can't change an entire system, I know that. But you can control your own individual self...and you can make more of a conscious effort not to blindly follow generations of views that may not make sense.
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as for the rest .. fathers work so when they come home if the daughter cannot even serve her own father i think that is pretty disrespectful to do to someone who has brought u into this world and has slaved and worked to feed u and give u luxuries .. but again to each their own i guess
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^whoosh.....never mind.
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If you want to get laid regularly.......then you must follow her orders regularly.
very well said, pakistani wives don't give it easily :)
it is equivalent to a gold box for men
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^ i said when she is **in the home
**y are u brining sativ savitri in this? ..this is the way it is .. either u accept it or u dont .. but u cant change an entire system that has been around forever almost
Course u can... in time anyway.. Just because some of our retarded practices have been followed for hundreds of years doesn't mean we should mindlessly carry on like sheep just for the sake of it..