Wife earning more than husband......

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really ?

so it means NOW i can watch 'Saas bi kabi baho ti" without worring ke kaab katam ho ga :D

well rit now i am earning more than my husband even though he has 2 jobs cuz i earn in $ n he earns in Rps..... :)

hhmmm i dont think he'll mind that cuz he looks at the picture differently.... he want us to settle down quickly.
have our own house, a car, some saving..... and gud living standards....
so to afford that it doesnt matter who earns more as long as we r earning...

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Originally Posted by Straight_up

Oh God I hope my husband is old fashioned. I really want to sleep in everyday and watch "Saas bhi kabhie bahu thi" all day.

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yeh i would love to hear from him that u stay home n i'll work :P but he is like no we both have to work if u didnt then its jst gona take longer to settle down....

i am working on ma plan to get away without working

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Any woman who even has a choice to work or not is more fortunate than alot of other women.

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:hehe:

CE I rather eat karela than watch an Indian drama. Next time my sarcasm will be more clear, I promise.

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^ hey karele is good for u!

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Yeah, you pretty much nailed it.

Having a choice to work is important for women and their self-esteem.

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Kahan se Kahan gaya conversation..:D

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Mirch - Perfect answer to this thread.

Doesn't matter who works. Househusband...housewife. Its a personal choice/ decision between husband wife. My next door neighbour is a househusband. Lol! My cousin earns more than her husband and they never give it a thought.

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I think there is no harm in bringing religion into this. And if a fellow guppy does…then it is b/c religion is a way of life for them. After all our religion, Islam, provides us with all our answers.. :slight_smile:

:slight_smile:

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i agree staying at home is hard work and should be just as respected.

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^ Ditto. Esp' when kithchen work never ends!!!! Lol.

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I want to have the option of working or not working. Right now, Im taking a break and just getting a few projects out of the way that Ive been putting off for a long time.

If I end up earning more then my husband...so be it. I dont think he will have a problem with it, my fiance is not that type of guy. He doesnt have self-esteem problems like that.

He has stated though that he would prefer to have me home. But its my choice and if I want to work to support the house, he wont have it. If I want to work to pass time, well and good.

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I think other women who doesn't have a choice to work or not are lukkiest one whose huband don't use her to help him. He believe in himself to provide everything and that way Allah helps him too.

Awain hi kaam karna as Job is not good. You can do household chors and take care of kids. Relax and no stress at all.

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[quote="Gr8Heera, post:13, topic:194277"]

I think other women who doesn't have a choice to work or not are lukkiest one whose huband don't use her to help him. He believe in himself to provide everything and that way Allah helps him too.

Awain hi kaam karna as Job is not good. You can do household chors and take care of kids.** Relax and no stress at all./**quote]

You gotta be kidding me Gr8!!!

I worked in trading floor technology for a decade...high energy, high stress, long long hours, great pay...

and it was actually less stressful than being a stay-at-home mom lol! Not that this is a complaint - its the "toughest job I ever loved".

ANYhoo...if I actually received pay for the things I do I'd probably rake in as much (or more) than hubby lol! Just imagine...if you had to hire and pay for the things that a stay-home mom does...sitters, getting them to activities, getting them dressed, fed, washed etc etc. Kids need around-the-clock care every day of every year. Then theres laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, gardening etc. To have to pay for all of these things, you'd need a king's ransom yeah?

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[quote="Mamaof3, post:19, topic:192783"]

[quote="Gr8Heera, post:13, topic:194277"]

I think other women who doesn't have a choice to work or not are lukkiest one whose huband don't use her to help him. He believe in himself to provide everything and that way Allah helps him too.

Awain hi kaam karna as Job is not good. You can do household chors and take care of kids.** Relax and no stress at all./**quote]

You gotta be kidding me Gr8!!!

I worked in trading floor technology for a decade...high energy, high stress, long long hours, great pay...

and it was actually less stressful than being a stay-at-home mom lol! Not that this is a complaint - its the "toughest job I ever loved".

ANYhoo...if I actually received pay for the things I do I'd probably rake in as much (or more) than hubby lol! Just imagine...if you had to hire and pay for the things that a stay-home mom does...sitters, getting them to activities, getting them dressed, fed, washed etc etc. Kids need around-the-clock care every day of every year. Then theres laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, gardening etc. To have to pay for all of these things, you'd need a king's ransom yeah?/quote]

LOL.....You made my day. Thanks.

What if a stay at home wife's husband earn that much to pay all these isn't she Lucky.

How would you feel when your kid will hire a sitter for you and a maid to do everything for you as here all the gorays (don't mind it I don't know what word to use) do?

If you won't give time to your kids and go to work and send them to sitting, can other lady do everything for your kid like you would do to your kids? NO. That's why many sitter beat and even kill.

Would your kids will get your love from a strange in sitting place? No.

What I believe today you throw your kid to baby sitting tommorrow your kid will throw you in old house. What goes around comes around.

He won't give you time which I think you will need as your kid need today and you are spending your time in working if you are not a single mom.

When you will get old your kid won't understand that you need them. They will think like same way you think that you got money to send them to baby sitting there they get great time.

When you will get old and your kid will do that to you then you will understand.

That is the reason in my country no old house. As parents take care of their kids first then later kids take care of them.

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I think I didnt make my point well enough...

first, the whole question was about wife and her earnings yeah? Heck, if I won 100 million dollar lotto I would still be a stay-at-home mom. I never use and never would use a babysitter unless circumstances absolutely require it. I would still not send my kids off to sleep away summer camp or school. I's still be here for them, all day every day. I'd have a bigger house for shoor. Go on nice vacations for sure. WITH the kids. I'm a mom and a mom who is blessed enough that i'm **able **to be a full-time mom. All I was trying to point out is that all of the things that a mom does...these things are not affordable so a stay home mom is worth as much (monetarily speaking) as a high-earning hubby yeah?

Timepass - November 2012
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ps...I think I should point out also the cultural difference between east and west as far as elders. I know that in the eastern cultures, the kids always take care of the parents and thats a very nice thing. In the west, parents raise their kids to be independant and to live their own lives. The majority of elder parents would never move in with their kids...and that is their choice, their doing - not the kids. My dad passed 2 years ago and my mom is alone now. And she will come and stay with us for a few weeks at a time but would never even consider living with us. She'd rather go to a nursing home. This is not because she feels unwelcome or anything - heck, we bend over backwards to make things so very nice for her - its because she never wants to be dependent on her kids no matter what. And I feel the same way....its a gori thing I guess....I will never ever impose on my kids when they grow up, I want them to have their own independant lives.

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It's not a cultural difference. It's a love, caring and need thing. We do know that we need each other as kids need parents when they are not independend or able to do things for themselves. When your kids are todlers they don't ask to take care of me. You yourself do take care of them because you know that they need you.

No when Parents need you you guys don't take care of them. They don't say it doesn't mean they don't need you.

You guys have mind set that you have to go out when you are 18 or kick your kids out when they are 18. Ask them If they wanted to be kicked out they would say no.

Ask you Mom if she wanted to live with you with love do not ask sarcastically.

Now you won't understand this as you are able to do things by yourself and have energy. When you will get old then you will understand that you sure need your loved ones specially your kids to take care of you.

As you guys don't like interference in your life so you don't invite and your parents know that you guys wont like her to come over and live, even you kids won't like your mom to come and live. Theser are all you guys have mind set. You guys don't even tolerate your old parents. We do because we love them. Love as an true love not superficial love as you guys do.

You guys mostly do show off of love not from your heart we do love our parents from our heart and do everything with love and also my releigion teach us to take care of parents when they get old.

Ask your mom with love to stay she won't say no when she will find that you are asking with heart and truly.

I do help old ppl when I see they carry a havy grocery bag and old it's hard for them to get on and off the bus. They become very happy. If they take help from a stranger why don't they like to have help from their own kid.

I feel so sorry for old men and women whom I saw can't even walk properly and go to grocery store and can't carry heavy bags. That's so painful.

You guys know it's their need to take care of them but you guys are so selfish only think about yourself and your convinient.

Is your mom live all alone? Who does grocery for her? Does she have a car? What happens when she get sick? Do you bring her in your home?

I talk to many old ladies they say our kids don't take care of us. They want their kids to take care of them.

You guys ask do you me to do that? You don't have to ask you have to do.

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MO3, well said!

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Gr8, it is a cultural thing.

We take care of our parents because of the joint family system being so rampant in eastern countries. In the west, its not. Here, people start focusing on retirement even before they hit 30 so they're financially independant and dont need their children.

I dont think there is anything wrong with either system.

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:hmmm: interesting replies given by our guppies. I am wondering though…when the time comes and their wives are really earning more money…will they be as secure as they are saying?