zgr8, you are so very wrong in your assumptions!! I love my mom with all my heart and would like nothing better than to have her live with us. She is difficult, she can be mean, but she's my mom and I love her so very dearly. Yet, just as I would never even entertain the thought of living with my boys in old age, my mom in the same way would never live with any of her kids. We have literally begged her, have offered to build her her own separate apartment onto our house if she would like that etc etc. She wants to be independent. She can drive, she can go shopping, she loves to do gardening, she has more than ample retirement funds and income, etc. She is elder but also fit and active and does not want to be dependent on her kids. I worry each and every day when she is at her home all alone. Yet she even wrote in her living will that if she should become disabled and lose the ability to care for herself then she wants to go to an elder-care facility. That breaks my heart and would fight that ferociously yet I would do the same exact thing. We are different in the west. In some ways, its a good thing. In some ways, not so good. But even us goris love and cherish our parents and would do anything for them.
ae...yes you are right to get this thing back to the topic at hand lol!
And in answer to your question, I think it all depends upon the self-confidence of the hubby. If he is a self-assured and professional type, he will accept the earnings of his wife with pride. And a guy with lower self-esteem will feel threatened and de-masculated.
but thats pretty scary because you nvr really know the kind of guy you are going to be married to until you start earning more then him
what if he ends up being that insecure…low self esteem type when the woman starts earning more? it can ruin a perfectly good marriage. shudders at the thought of marriage
AE, I think sometimes you can tell. If he is someone who promotes your career and independant choices and also pursues his own ambitions...then I think you will be fine.
If he is the type of guy who doesnt put a lot of confidence in your work and doesnt consider it a career, then you might have a problem.
