ps...I think I should point out also the cultural difference between east and west as far as elders. I know that in the eastern cultures, the kids always take care of the parents and thats a very nice thing. In the west, parents raise their kids to be independant and to live their own lives. The majority of elder parents would never move in with their kids...and that is their choice, their doing - not the kids. My dad passed 2 years ago and my mom is alone now. And she will come and stay with us for a few weeks at a time but would never even consider living with us. She'd rather go to a nursing home. This is not because she feels unwelcome or anything - heck, we bend over backwards to make things so very nice for her - its because she never wants to be dependent on her kids no matter what. And I feel the same way....its a gori thing I guess....I will never ever impose on my kids when they grow up, I want them to have their own independant lives.
It's not a cultural difference. It's a love, caring and need thing. We do know that we need each other as kids need parents when they are not independend or able to do things for themselves. When your kids are todlers they don't ask to take care of me. You yourself do take care of them because you know that they need you.
No when Parents need you you guys don't take care of them. They don't say it doesn't mean they don't need you.
You guys have mind set that you have to go out when you are 18 or kick your kids out when they are 18. Ask them If they wanted to be kicked out they would say no.
Ask you Mom if she wanted to live with you with love do not ask sarcastically.
Now you won't understand this as you are able to do things by yourself and have energy. When you will get old then you will understand that you sure need your loved ones specially your kids to take care of you.
As you guys don't like interference in your life so you don't invite and your parents know that you guys wont like her to come over and live, even you kids won't like your mom to come and live. Theser are all you guys have mind set. You guys don't even tolerate your old parents. We do because we love them. Love as an true love not superficial love as you guys do.
You guys mostly do show off of love not from your heart we do love our parents from our heart and do everything with love and also my releigion teach us to take care of parents when they get old.
Ask your mom with love to stay she won't say no when she will find that you are asking with heart and truly.
I do help old ppl when I see they carry a havy grocery bag and old it's hard for them to get on and off the bus. They become very happy. If they take help from a stranger why don't they like to have help from their own kid.
I feel so sorry for old men and women whom I saw can't even walk properly and go to grocery store and can't carry heavy bags. That's so painful.
You guys know it's their need to take care of them but you guys are so selfish only think about yourself and your convinient.
Is your mom live all alone? Who does grocery for her? Does she have a car? What happens when she get sick? Do you bring her in your home?
I talk to many old ladies they say our kids don't take care of us. They want their kids to take care of them.
You guys ask do you me to do that? You don't have to ask you have to do.