I have a real problem … Perhaps you guys can help … My wife says that my family are boring and as a result she doesn’t like going to their house…
My Dad is very busy studying super advanced Arabic and preparing his lessons for teaching muppets like me … My mum is a part-time teacher in a local school and when at home she is studying for some education related qualification - and whenever we visit she grabs me and gets me to help her do her coursework …
My two kids sisters are busy studying … But now the exams of one of my sisters are over and she sits and watches TV the other sister is nearing completion of her exams … She wants to help out do some work in our house … but I think my wife is quite possessive of her things and going by the pictures that my wife takes of this’n’that you get this sense that she is not just making a home - she is calibrating it … she would hate any external intervention … even when I help out she sees it as a necessary evil … If she had the brawn for it - she would even do the hard labour herself … LOL … Besides that sister of mine gets a bit cranky with the kids and my wife hates it when they are shouted at by anyone else …
We would like to go out a bit more - may be call the family along, but my wife would not want to spend time outside with my family … And to be honest my family would feel quite imprisoned being subject to our agenda … we love nature - I’m not sure if they would appreciate it thou … However … they may like a boating experience … but then there is my dad … the most exciting thing he does these days is … going to a wedding … … I’m the sort of person who would take to wingsuits (if I didn’t have dependants) and I have already done a couple of bungee jumps … My wife says I’m boring too sometimes … but that is reverse psychology …
Can you guys suggest ways to make my family less boring and convince my wife and my dad that we should try doing something together as a big extended family thing …
Re: Wife complains that my family are boring - What shall I do?
You cant change your family so change your wife - but wait - she's been with you from few years , I dont think you still have the refund policy active :D
Re: Wife complains that my family are boring - What shall I do?
well it needs two to tango - neither she can be wrong all the time nor your family is wrong all the time .. again we come to finding the common ground on which this inlaws relationship get planted . not only planted but get nourished with love and care !
Personally I think She shant get cranky , if the kids get scolded by your kid sisters , I mean talking about fair scolding here - on occasions kids need to be told . On the same hands your kid sisters should also keep things within limits ..
I wouldnt state that your family is bit boring - the circumstances you stated - according to them , they all are occupied with their life and would only encourage as little interactions as possible . And it aint a bad thing either .
if they all ( your wife and your family ) can manage a good relationship without poking their fingers in each other pies .. I dont see a reason why you should be worried .
Re: Wife complains that my family are boring - What shall I do?
It seems they are stressed with one another as well ... I just want to help bring a bit of life and colour in their lives ... but I'm not sure they will appreciate it. I'm quite sure my wife will think it is a waste of time even trying ...
Re: Wife complains that my family are boring - What shall I do?
They like coming over and tasting the food I cook for them so you better finish doing the DIY in the house. They're not going to change and nor do I expect them to change but sometimes I like comparing them with more lively people who like fun. Why did you start this thread?
Because I have started to believe they are becoming boring and I'm thinking it's because of their predicament rather than choice they are like that ... Growing up there was different ... but may be I can help change it ... And people can give some ideas too ..
Re: Wife complains that my family are boring - What shall I do?
They like coming over and tasting the food I cook for them so you better finish doing the DIY in the house. They're not going to change and nor do I expect them to change but sometimes I like comparing them with more lively people who like fun. Why did you start this thread?
Perhaps you guys can help … My wife says that my family are boring and as a result she doesn’t like going to their house…
… I’m the sort of person who would take to wingsuits (if I didn’t have dependants) and I have already done a couple of bungee jumps … My wife says I’m boring too sometimes … but that is reverse psychology … 
… I think you are sweet too … Umm 
… No I don’t … but 
for the support …