Reha
March 8, 2013, 10:52pm
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Re: Wife and staying over at parents
^ I agree with your comment - there is no golden standard or a single measuring stick to judge what is too much or too little. But, my own pet peeve based on the real life examples I’ve seen is that for some girls, by spending too much time at her own parents home (too frequent overnight visits), prevents the girls from truly treating her home with her husband as her own home. So, it’s less about quantifiable time, and more about attitude.
What always surprised me is that girls didn’t see their own mums going back and staying with their maika that often, yet they pull out - but why shouldn’t I see my parents as often as I you see yours?
If that’s a girl’s objective - to be equitable in how much time/access she has to her family - then she should buy three homes. Her own home in the middle, and her parents living in the home on one side, and his parents living in the home on the other side. Now that’s being fair!
I think she’s right that its not about the amount of time as much as it is your attitude. You get married and become a separate family unit on your own just like your parents are. I also think our parents expect us to be more attentive towards our families/husbands.
It takes a while to strike that perfect balance also.