Re: Wife and staying over at parents
I’ve noticed that in many threads and realized this after reading your various different threads that what most of us end up giving “advice” (opinionated viewpoints) on is so very out of context. In many threads, the OP isn’t clear on what their asking in their original post. People take a stab at it based on their own biases and how they intrepreted the question, and low & behold - more information comes out.
It is never clear what people are asking, sometimes they don’t say it, other times, they say one thing but really are asking something else. But the information in this thread alone was not enough to depict the entire picture. When I first read, I honestly didn’t see a big deal of a 5 day visit after her parents returned from abroad. So you’ll have to take people’s advice with a big grain of salt.
Did your wife go away before of after your chat? Also, was this an arranged marriage where you got to talk to each other just a little bit before marriage and really didn’t know each other’s constitution?
If she went away before the chat, it could’ve been a million things but here are a few..some of her behaviour could be passive agressiveness from not being able to relate to you & your family, or she could’ve been quite upset at your Valentine’s Day gift and said “I’ll show him!” and left you for several days or it could just be misunderstanding which just escalated. Hopefully, it was all just miscommunication.
Marriage is a lot of work but if both parties put in consistant effort and keep the lines of communication open, it will be rewarding. I’ve been married for 2 years but it still feels like we’re working on finding our happy medium on in some areas of our life. We both come from very different family cultures & values & habits but at the end of the day, our long term goals are the same.