Re: Wife and staying over at parents
Najeeb,
I just read some of your previous threads and I think I understand your situation and agree with others that in context of:
Sulking continuously & keeping herself in the room
Not addressing your Mum with a title. I can understand that she doesn’t want to call your mother “Mum” but she can just as easily call her “Aunty” “Sasuma” Saas ji"… My husband’s Brother’s wife used to do this with our MIL. It was her passive aggressive way of punishing the MIL because they didn’t get along.
Having an issue with your sister or SIL without reason
Going away to stay extended amounts of time with her family
Walking out of the house at 1:30 AM because she got emotional
There is something wrong here. It may be that there’s miscommunication between the 2 of you or that she’s depressed or there is a serious marriage issue going on or your family culture & atmosphere is different than her’s and she is sulking. Whatever is going on, it is nice that you are trying hard to give her space but you need to talk to her. I couldn’t see if you ever talked with her to find out what is going on with her.
Ignoring this is not going to make it go away. You can be respectful towards both your Mum & your wife and do right by them both by having an open, honest discussion and resolving this lingering tension that’s been going on since the beginning.
Alhamdulillah we had a chat a while ago and everything is now ok and we do not have any issues whatsoever.
My mum and wife seem to be getting along fine and so are the rest of my family with her and vice versa. The only thing i really wanted to know was the amount of time she spends at her parents and whether it is normal. Just wanted to understand the different responses.
I don’t have any issue remaining with her though.