*“Widows don’t give their blessings to the bride on her wedding day” *
What the heck??
I had never heard of that before my sister’s wedding. There were two widowed ladies among the guests and neither of them came up to the stage to meet my sister. The simply handed out the gifts to my mother off the stage. My mom and my khala were literally pulling them to the stage, to make them sit with my sister, to give her the gift themselves but they kept refusing.
I asked what the deal was afterwards and thats what I was told.
If it was some jaahil woman saying this sorta stuff I wouldn’t even have opened this thread, I would’ve known she was just being superstitious.
But those two ladies are highly educated, decent ladies, I have so much respect for them, they’re absolutely lovely, and thats why it shocks me to hear such a thing from them!
Is there any truth in this??? If so, what are the “dangers” if a widow gives her blessings to the bride on her big day??
I agree, pretty stupid rasam .. my mom did not give blessing to her own daughter because mom was widow. I mean, it was not her fault that my father passed away (or was it? )
It reminds me of the hindu thing where one inferior zaat can’t touch the superior zaat… why would my destiny change if a widowed lady gave me a present with her own hands on my wedding day and prayed for me?
^ well no decent person among the guests would have stood up and stopped them from doing so… they were simply refusing to do it..
I have a feeling its a bit of both… u know crazy anties… they would make a big deal out of it! “Onu wekheya c stage tey char k baith gai c…” this n that
I agree with everything u guys said... Now I think those ladies knew that there was no truth in this... but they just didn't want to .. offend? ... any of the dumbos that did believe in it! U know the way in Pakistan you have to logon ka khayal karna etc etc!
And Mehnaz.... unmarried women too???? that doesn't make sense... like half the guests were unmarried... including me n my other sisters n my cousins n all... ?
I agree with everything u guys said... Now I think those ladies knew that there was no truth in this... but they just didn't want to .. offend? ... any of the dumbos that did believe in it! U know the way in Pakistan you have to logon ka khayal karna etc etc!
And Mehnaz.... unmarried women too???? that doesn't make sense... like half the guests were unmarried... including me n my other sisters n my cousins n all... ?
yeah yeah there is a crap of a rasam on who will put hina on dulhan's hand during mehndi and only 7 "happily married" women are invited to do this no matter those women are get a beating at home but nah ..they are invited coz they are "hapily married" :)
This is Nothing…many families in pakistan dont even allow those womens who dont have kids ( like after many years of marriage they are still not expacting.)
Yes Im serious...once i went to wedding in pakistan and the grooms sister who dont have kids..she was married for 12 years...and poor her...she was away from her OWN bhabhi :(
This ritual has been passed down from old Hindu rituals/traditions/beliefs where widows were considered inauspicious. It's like saying that their bad omen was responsible for their husbands deaths so stay away from our daughters so your bad omen doesn't rub off on them.
Something like that. Unfortunately, it is still widely practiced at weddings in the subcontinent still.
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u guys serious???
