Sometimes I wonder why do some people remain devoid of life's most basic and simple requirements of life like getting married despite being good hearted, educated etc etc. I have seen really mean girls who do lots of hasad get married at the right time (20s) and they are apparently happy too. But why do the simple hearted girls remain unmarried??
I’ve wondered about the above several times myself.. not only about marriage, but in general
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Yeah! Girls who belittle others, fool them,make fun of the simple people around them get all they want, marriage children etc, why aren’t they punished for their bad behaviour. On the other hand seedhe saadhe log peeche reh jate hain doosro ki chalakion ki waja se.
I know that they will be punished sooner or later, in this world or the next, but what abt the rewards for the good hearted and simple (apne kaam se kaam rakhne wale log)?
Like …Why does the Road Turn? … 
How do you know if you’re living a mediocre life?](https://www.quora.com/How-do-you-know-if-youre-living-a-mediocre-life)
"***It’s like this: anyone can win, or be lucky. It requires absolutely no real effort to endure, and then rise above a win, or a streak of luck, or anything like that. You cannot become more than you were before, either to yourself or anyone else, without failing, or losing, or enduring a bad experience?. And eventually rising above it and still being able to meet your own gaze in a mirror when it’s all said and done.
And until/ unless you successfully navigate and climb back from failure, then my friend, you’ve never been challenged. And this is the way that I would describe a mediocre existence: one in which you’ve never had to grow, and become more than you were before".***
I quoted Mr Berring,
I think these words may help you get over the problems in some way 
1- Life’s most basic and simple requirements are food, water, shelter and clothing.
2- There is no prescribed right or wrong time to get married.
3- No one, married or otherwise, is happy or sad all the time.
4- Marriage has its own set of problems and obstacles just like being single has.
The quoted text is a bit exaggerated.
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Good observation skills
true too
not that i know why
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Thanks! Alhamdulillah am sure am not living a mediocre life, yes I have my hopes alive that one day insha Allah I will be blessed with this happiness too. Its just that I feel bad about not having the bliss of marriage which almost every person gets. Mainly because I have been too naive and not chalak and then I wonder why do chalak people get whatever they want. Surely, being cunning and chalak is not a good thing.
Hi LP,
Thanks for reminding me with the truth. These reminders are indeed comforting. I do thank God for all the blessings He has bestowed upon me. You are right there is no fixed time for marriage. But u see, I am already in my mid 30s. I do feel bad for myself for not having a husband, why me? If almost everyone can get this happiness, why have I been left out? Surely God loves me too, but then why am I still alone? I depend only on God for my life, but when I see young girls happily holding their husband’s hands I do feel deprived and sorry for myself.
some days are fine, I dont even think about this absence in my life, but some days I really really feel depressed.
The quote surely made me laugh out loud. Thanks
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I understand my worth and that’s why didnt accept marriage proposals where I thought i deserved better. But the result, no marriage yet. Sigh! The question now is why didnt I get a rishta who deserved me or whom I deserved at the apt time (my 20s)? Yes it’s my luck but then why is my luck affected with other people’s cunningness. For example twice or thrice when a good rishta came for me, someone in the acquaintance who is jealous would lie abt me being impolite or quarrelsome etc etc and that rishta would be diverted towards other girls and they would be married off.
Is this so easy to lie abt someone and keep them deprived of their happiness?
I am.not dying to get married l, but I do feel that I have been deprived of this basic happiness almost everyone is blessed with.
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That is awesome that you know your worth also it is important that you are able to project that. Things don?t happen you have to make them happen.
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How? The rishta aunties are and their rishtas are so demeaning, dont have a big extended family. Am clueless.
I am not sure how that process works but I know how to make people like me. You can learn how to read personalities do you get a chance to talk to these people?
Which people?
The boy and decision makers
You should also know that good guys have exact same problem.
No. No rishta in process currently. Many times I don’t even get to know who sent me the rishta. It’s usually diverted off to other girls before it even reaches me or my family. I don’t know why some people are so keen on keeping the rishtas away from me. Un ko Kia khushi milti hai Idk?