Why

[Nats]

@""Bobby1""

You should also know that good guys have exact same problem.

Yeah! They must be frowning:

[Bobby1]

I think Rishta Aunties work for money maybe they think they can get more somewhere else

They don?t match people well I was looking for strong independent lady and they sent me gharara pics

[Bobby1]

I think good pics are important also do you have narrow filters

[Nats]

@""Bobby1""

I think Rishta Aunties work for money maybe they think they can get more somewhere else

They don?t match people well I was looking for strong independent lady and they sent me gharara pics

Sad.

[LP]

@""Nats""

Hi LP,

Thanks for reminding me with the truth. These reminders are indeed comforting. I do thank God for all the blessings He has bestowed upon me. You are right there is no fixed time for marriage. But u see, I am already in my mid 30s. I do feel bad for myself for not having a husband, why me? If almost everyone can get this happiness, why have I been left out? Surely God loves me too, but then why am I still alone? I depend only on God for my life, but when I see young girls happily holding their husband’s hands I do feel deprived and sorry for myself.

some days are fine, I dont even think about this absence in my life, but some days I really really feel depressed.

Why me doesn’t help us. We need to understand that not everything, be it money, health, marriage etc is meant for everyone. We get a set of cards and we do the best we can with those.
I am 32 years old and single . Just like you, I crave companionship sometimes and I’m okay with being single at other times. I used to feel sorry for myself until recently. I realized I wasted a lot of time feeling sorry and not living.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself, try to do the best you can with the blessings you have. Just go to those ladies only groups on fb and see the marital issues people post anonymously and you’ll really see that marriage, like everything else, isn’t all bliss.
Yes, marriage is important. Allah (swt) says that he has created our spouses so that we may find tranquility in them but He doesn’t say we can’t find tranquility in other things. If marriage happens for us, alhumdulillah. If it doesn’t, still alhumdulillah. Let’s not waste our lives dwelling on what we don’t have. Let’s enjoy what we have and work towards acquiring what we don’t have. Keep looking for a spouse but don’t forget to live your life in the meantime.
Remember, whatever is meant for you can’t go to someone else… So those rishtas which didn’t come your way weren’t meant for you.

PS : I hope my post doesn’t come across as patronizing. I was in a similar state of mind for a long time and God forbid I may slip into it again.

[Nats]

@""LP""

Why me doesn’t help us. We need to understand that not everything, be it money, health, marriage etc is meant for everyone. We get a set of cards and we do the best we can with those.
I am 32 years old and single . Just like you, I crave companionship sometimes and I’m okay with being single at other times. I used to feel sorry for myself until recently. I realized I wasted a lot of time feeling sorry and not living.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself, try to do the best you can with the blessings you have. Just go to those ladies only groups on fb and see the marital issues people post anonymously and you’ll really see that marriage, like everything else, isn’t all bliss.
Yes, marriage is important. Allah (swt) says that he has created our spouses so that we may find tranquility in them but He doesn’t say we can’t find tranquility in other things. If marriage happens for us, alhumdulillah. If it doesn’t, still alhumdulillah. Let’s not waste our lives dwelling on what we don’t have. Let’s enjoy what we have and work towards acquiring what we don’t have. Keep looking for a spouse but don’t forget to live your life in the meantime.
Remember, whatever is meant for you can’t go to someone else… So those rishtas which didn’t come your way weren’t meant for you.

PS : I hope my post doesn’t come across as patronizing. I was in a similar state of mind for a long time and God forbid I may slip into it again.

Trust me LP, your words brought me solace and also some tears… not tears of sadness or joy, just tears of pure emotions, of sister hood, of finding people with the same pain.

You are 100 percent right. Insha Allah we will be blessed with this happiness too. Aaameen. Thanks again!

[redvelvet]

I plead guilty to wondering how on earth the husbands of women who have very difficult personality traits can stand them. But then I consider the bright side: If the women that we (and many others) find to be intolerable have found a lalloo who accepts them, then maybe there is still hope for the rest of us.

[Nats]

@""redvelvet""

I plead guilty to wondering how on earth the husbands of women who have very difficult personality traits can stand them. But then I consider the bright side: If the women that we (and many others) find to be intolerable have found a lalloo who accepts them, then maybe there is still hope for the rest of us.

Lol yeah! Hahahaha

[Bobby1]

A bad marriage is way worse than a happy single life. My best friend is a divorced Pakistani girl and seems to be the happiest person, she has two teenaged daughters living in USA with her mom, her father recently passed away, her mom is sick, his brothers fianc? from Pak was physical with 3 guys and created huge drama until they were able to send her back to Lahore. And yet her BMW is always shiny, she?s always dressed well perfect hair, nails etc

The worst thing that happened to her is she loves to eat, she would be a food tourist and I liked cooking for her and when she went to US to take care of her mom she herself collapsed in Hospital they removed her gallbladder and was liquid diet and can?t eat much now.
I feed her random and bone soup to help her ease and yet never seen her sigh, or be unhappy

[third_string]

@""Bobby1""

A bad marriage is way worse than a happy single life. My best friend is a divorced Pakistani girl and seems to be the happiest person, she has two teenaged daughters living in USA with her mom, her father recently passed away, her mom is sick, his brothers fianc? from Pak was physical with 3 guys and created huge drama until they were able to send her back to Lahore. And yet her BMW is always shiny, she?s always dressed well perfect hair, nails etc

The worst thing that happened to her is she loves to eat, she would be a food tourist and I liked cooking for her and when she went to US to take care of her mom she herself collapsed in Hospital they removed her gallbladder and was liquid diet and can?t eat much now.
I feed her random and bone soup to help her ease and yet never seen her sigh, or be unhappy

Can you translate that in English lol

[Nats]

@""Bobby1""

A bad marriage is way worse than a happy single life.

Indeed. Thanks

[navzzz]

Hope you get the most loving, caring and loyal husband soon, better than the one in your dreams, InsAllah.

[Nats]

@""navzzz""

Hope you get the most loving, caring and loyal husband soon, better than the one in your dreams, InsAllah.

Aaameen! Thanks a lot for the prayers. May God bless you too. And may God also bless all praying to Him.

[sonnykuri]

My prayers for you Nats.

I mean no offence whatsoever but what do you mean by demeaning rishtas? What do you consider demeaning rishta?

[Nats]

@""sonnykuri""

My prayers for you Nats.

I mean no offence whatsoever but what do you mean by demeaning rishtas? What do you consider demeaning rishta?

Where the larkey waale would point out flaws in the larki and her family mainly to degrade the larki and her family and then reject her. Hamara Larka toh yeh hai woh hai. Larki toh kaali hai, yeh ghar toh kafi purana hai etc etc.