Why some peoples feelings & emotions are more important to Allah than others? Are they not humans ? Their feelings & emotions get continuously hurt while others get the easy way out. Why some girls emotions & feelings are considered more important near Allah than others? Why one is made for suffering & the other one for love?Whats the compensation?
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Everyone’s feelings are important to Allah. Life is a test and it’s filled with ups and downs. We can’t really look at someone and say they have everything going for them because most of the time, they don’t.
We often get hurt when we attach ourselves to the worldly life more than to Allah himself. Everything in this dunya is temporary so it’s imporant to always remember that. If you find yourself in a continuous cycle of being emotionally hurt then it’s not Allah’s fault. Its ours. We need to learn to give our hearts out to people who deserve them and to guard it the best we can. To have successful relationships its wise to be emotionally intelligent.
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No one? Seriously? 
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I think Illuminate said it well in 2nd post. Also, how do you know that what you are calling as ‘others’ are not important to ALLAH? If thats becuz those “others” arent getting rewarded in this world doesnt mean they arent important. Its just a test, which sometimes gets prolonged.
Remember, our life is a complete roller-coaster. What goes up must come down and vice-versa. Patience is the key.
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This is my favourite topic. It is absolutely wrong to even think this, that some peoples’ feelings are more important to Allah SWT. Allah has said it time and time again in the scriptures etc, that all people are ‘my’ people, and I value everyone equally. Allah has also said that He doesn’t like misery. It is in the Quran where Allah says to stay away from misery and have belief on him. Mayoos hona aur mayoosi phailana kufr hai aur haram. Allah also says in the Quran that I do not burden a person more than he can bear. Whatever we face in life, sometimes more than other people, it is because Allah SWT thinks we are more than capable to deal with the challenges that we face.
Allah has also said that our life is a test and that we are supposed to be brave enough to deal with anything. This is also why suicide is haram in Islam. No one but Allah SWT has the right to take away peoples’ lives. The lives that He alone has created. Let me remind you something, some people that face a lot of hardships in this dunia, are blessed, because they will gain akhirah and heavens. Allah has said that I have blessed some people with everything in this world, whilst giving others hardships. Those who remain steadfast in belief and faith, will be rewarded in the afterlife. Dear tissues, life is the name of ups and downs, happiness & sadness, regret and joy etc. There’s always the other side of human emotions and feelings involved when it comes to functioning of us human beings.
If there was happiness always, we wouldn’t appreciate it much. The mere fact that we face hardships and see through sadness, makes us value the little happiness we get more than other people who do not experience things and live life the way we do.
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Dubaiwali, I fear our Almighty creator but of those people that are born with no arms or legs in the womb of their mother, would true happiness come to them? In our so superficial world, will a person withat no arms or legs find a life partner or ever get the chance to have a child or enjoy some of sweet momens in life like a wedding or the birth of child being in their state of having no appendages?
I’m not for abortion but their life would be pure pain and suffering for their whole life. If in your womb,with the ultrasound, in the early stages it showed the embryo had no appendages, how would you honestly handle it? I sometimes feel that parents that give birth to that child would be selfish just because they wanted a child but they don’t think about how that child’s life would be for the next 70 years. I’ve had someone ask me this before and it made me think long and hard and I had no answer that I myself believed.
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So why some people get sufferings while others get the easy way out? Why do they live normal lives while others go through hardships? Whats the compensation? Everyone gives same response that everyone goes through trails & all but some are actually suffering a lot more than others. Their lives are ****ty but people who lead normal lives the only tension they get is oh look my cat ran away, my best friend is upset with me, oh I have exam tomorrow etc etc
I want answers
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What you are saying looks “apparently” true but everyone gets their turn. Literally everyone. One way or the other. And its all about the timing. Its a cycle. Those who seem to be getting everything (and may ALLAH give them even more) do get a bump at some stage normally. And those who are suffering today will get a boost tomorrow.
There is one thing written, tried and tested which helps ease the complications. i.e. Sadqa. We are suggested to give more and more sadqa for various reasons, one of which is to avert the tough times.
Rest is the patience which you must keep.
But thats pretty much what I said earlire too, not sure if you are not understanding or you dont want to. Peace.
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Yes, There are rich people out there, who are depressed and are unhappy. Who are stressed out and think to them selves about killing them selves. Look at Robin Williams, he was successful in every way? Why was he so sad? Some people have different struggles. Some people are not married want to get married and they are un happy because of that. Some people who are married and are happy with their marriage will have a child thats disabled some how. Some people who are unhappily married and are still together and living through that pain and fighting all the time. EVERYONE and I mean EVERYONE puts on an act. No one is “truly” happy, they fake happiness or they are happy for a temporary time. Once that time is done they will be sad again. Some people suffer deadly disease they are only here on this world for a short time and they are gone. Some people have long term diseases and they have to deal with that pain. There are so many examples of people seemingly living normal lives, but on their insides they are hurting even more emotionally than people who are in physical pain.
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Where did you get such an idea?
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Well, I have been searching for the answer to the same question as well but so far haven’t found any good explanation. Different Islamic scholars have tried to explain but I never got any satisfactory answer.
There is no doubt that all of us have to go thru trials in this life. Life is not bed of roses BUT I think your question is different … What you are asking is that why some people have tougher trials then others. … This is where I feel lost too. Why some have it easier compared to others. And some have really tragic lives , so much so that they never come out of it.
Allah says in Quran that we all will be tested
" Do you suppose that you will enter the Garden without encountering what those before you encountered? They were afflicted by misfortune and hardships. They were so shaken up that even [their] messenger and the believers with him cried, ‘When will God’s help arrive?’ Truly, God’s help is near.” (Qur’an, 2:214)”
In Surah Al Mulk . Ayah 2 Allah says “It is He who created death and life in order to test you, which of you are best in deeds. And He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving"
Yes, no doubt we all will be tested BUT the question is that why some get an easy test while others difficult. If the reward or the end result is the same ( Jannah ) than doesn’t it seem unfair ?
In this life , we all have to sit for an exam BUT our test papers are different. some of us who are lucky get an easy paper and some unfortunate ones get much tougher test paper? Why ? Don’t know? I don’t think anyone know. Bottom line is life is not fair.
You probably heard others saying that Allah test those more who are closer to Him. I don’t buy that… If that was the case then why would Allah say in the Quran ( surah Ashura ayat 30 ) that whatever hardships befalls on u is because of what your own hands have committed, while He overlooks many.
You probably also heard people saying that Allah only burden u as much as one can bear… then why in surah bakarah , ayat 286 , it says to ask Allah to not put on us the burden greater than we have strength to bear. Why do we have to ask for Allah not to put us in that situation. It’s because many a times we are tested beyound our strength. That’s why people go into depression , anxiety and some even commit suicide cause they can’t handle it.
Well, one can only hope that we will be compensated in the hereafter. There is no guarantees for that either … No one can guarantee u that since u got a tougher paper u automatically cleared the exam … You still have to score enough in your test to pass the exam. U have to stay patient , show taqwa and sabr and stay steadfast , only then MAYBE u can enter paradise. If you complaint u may lose all your points.
I even looked into other religious to see if they have any better explanation but really haven’t found any. Maybe in Buddhism where they believe in karma and recarnation.
Have u also noticed that it’s a human nature that Allah bless us with his blessings , we never ask “why me” but only when any blessing is taken away from us we start questioning " why me "
As I said before life is not fair… Some are fortunate and some are unfortunate. This is taqdeer and it just shows that’s we as human are powerless. There is a much bigger power that has the ultimate control. We, humans. the powerless creatures can only pray for a good taqdeer and hope that Allah will compensate us for any hardships or tragedies that we faced in this world.
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Girls get raped in some parts of the world, what did they do to deserve this ? while some girls lead normal lives, they are born in good family, get a decent lifestyle, get friends, get quality education, no big troubles at all.
Now in comparison you cant say its a cycle or its the timing or the girl who got raped will get a boost tomorrow, like seriouslyyy??? while other girl lived a normal life.
So we did a crime to be closer to Allah so he can constantly put us on trail?
Thats unfair.
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From my personal experience.
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So no matter how many people try to tell you that life isn’t fair and Allah always has our best interest in mind it won’t resonate with you. Either you’ve experienced something really traumatic and emotionally breaking in your own life or someone you love is experiencing it. Or my other guess is that you’ve had this epiphany to learn about all the problems in the world and ponder on why it all happens and why life isn’t perfect and how it can all be solved in which there will be a lifetime of thinking.
So breathe, relax and let life work its course. I don’t think it’s good to be selfish and to only think about yourself but I would advise you to take a couple minutes to just be grateful for YOUR life instead of worrying about the bad that’s happening in others. That’s between them and Allah alone. Be thankful for what you have and thank Allah for all your blessings today. I did this gratitude challenge for 20 days where everyday morning after waking up I thanked Allah for 10 new things I was grateful for. It really helped me realize the things I had, even the smallest of things and it helped me look at the world with a more positive perspective. Sometimes we live life with one narrative and it’s important to see all aspects, preferably the good instead of the bad.
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Ok, being a victim of a crime is definitely something thats your hard luck and its the wrong person at wrong time and place. But you can question, why this person only, the answer is that the said person has to go through a tough test. And if someone is given a tough test they’ll be given the best of rewards too. And thats why from what I know all the innocent deaths resulting in natural or eventful calamities are said to have a place in Jannah. Every unwanted pain in this world has a similar reward too, something we arent aware of.
Now surviving from this is extremely painful and hard to overcome but one thing I’ve noticed that people in faith find patience much quickly. Now I’m not a religious person much and I hate to bring this but three years back I lost my nephew. He passed away right after his eighth birthday. It was a trauma for us. Anywaz, then I read how Holy Prophet had two sons, not one, and both died in the very early age and at that time his opponents used to say that his generation is going to be wiped off and nobody would remember him. But he was steadfast and ofcourse had the patience and blessings but my point is, I realized that when the dearest prophet can go through this huge pain, who are we to complain!
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His wisdom is beyond my understanding
Just as someone will be better off then you, there will be someone else who think you are better off then them
Being grateful for whatever
Circle of life
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Can you elaborate whose feelings you find matter more to Allah and whose matter less? What warnings can you find in Qur’an, Sunnah, or even any fatwa to be more severe to hurt the feelings of one as opposed the other? If you present some more facts from these sources it might be easier to discuss.
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This too shall pass.
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I read your post