that reminds me....a few years ago..when i was still an undergrad..and my little brother started college...he used to live on campus with a few pakistani guys...and none had families in the US. Ramzan would come, and I would cook food and stuff their fridge/apartment with sehris/iftars.... one of the boy's mother came to visit from karachi,(a big Farahat Hashmi fan/follower..whatever you wanna call her) she came up to me and said..."in mein se kis ke saath tumhara chakar chal ra hai"....?? ...I stood there frozen...with a sudden onset of ringing in my ears....Never in my life had I heard anything like that....they were babies!!..... kya language thi us aurat ki!!! seriously.....I never talked to her again....Her son came up and said "api dont be offended...this is reason why I decided to leave home and go to college at the age of 16.."
It has nothing to do with Farhat Hashmi , I am a man , I am big fan of Farhat Hashmi, I listen to her taleem ul quran lectures in the mornings and evenings during my drive to my work. I have learned a lot of Quranic Arabic with her help.Now at least I can understand when the Quran is being recited and can pay attention instead of my mind wondering during recitation of Quran. Allah un ko Jaza a khair day. Yes, I do not agree to everything she says , but she has lot to offer to our women.
Now to your story. It is typical jahil mentality and it is very common in our country and community , unfortunately.