Peace Kid A
You are more or less right, but you see that is it ..... Those very women who exhibit more masculinity or at least Alpha Male Machoism are the ones who become leaders, not the majority of women who exhibit 'femininity'.
Femininity is a socially reinforced gender role that has no basis in biology. We have observed time and time again that reinforcing this gender role on women to be sweet, passive, demure, not aggressive, etc has very severe repercussions, especially in cases of rape and violence against women. If women were socialized to be as strong and self sufficient as men, we wouldn't see these problems.