zobia i know of many guys who lower their gaze while talking to women and it doesn’t matter how the woman is dressed. Have faith, I know theres only a handful of good men and they are hard to come across, but they are out there
To the original poster, I don’t understand why you want to turn someones special day into a hook-up place for yourself, a bit selfish isn’t it? If times are really THAT bad that you need other people to arrange special events and change the way they want their wedding so you can check out guys or that guys can check you out, why don’t you try standing in the parking lot of these events? Let your sari ka paloo slide, drop your keys, pick em up. Repeat until you find someone.
There are many Mullah who do not care to impose segregation so one should look for those kind of Mullahs , also people think that Mullah is needed for Nikah , no he is not . Anybody can get the form for Nikah fill it and get the nikha registered.
The following is the minimum requirement in Sunni sect:
Nikah is performed with a proposal (Iejaab) by the male or female and acceptance (Qubool) by the male or female in the past tense and in the presence of two male Muslim witnesses.
It is Sunnat that the marriage be announced and performed in the Masjid and the bride be represented by her Mahram (Unmarriageable relative like father, brother, etc.). The bride gives consent to her representative (Wakeel) in the presence of two witnesses to perform her marriage at the Masjid. At the Masjid, the Wakeel represents the bride in the presence of the two witnesses and the stipulated dowry. The witnesses must be two trustworthy and pious male Muslims who are not her ascendants e.g. father, grandfather or descendants e.g. son, grandson, etc.
The Mahr is the woman's right and should be stipulated prior to the marriage.
I really don't give a crap what your sect says. Mostly because that is not even the point. Its about segregation in weddings, and mullahs DO for the most part insist...especially in the States, where they are looked up as the leader of the city's communities and have ample leverage.
Not for me friend. In general. I am already engaged. But I see so many youngsters wasting away their time with non muslims, both male and female ones!
There is NOTHING wrong with scanning an area like a wedding for a potential. I am just saying, its the most fertile area for such things and should be encouraged officially. Its utter stupidity to hide the other sex, especially if its an event where the community shows up! Isn’t that a bit idiotic?
You live in the states. Your kids go to school in public, they eat in public, they do things in public infront of everyone else. Yet when it comes to your own community you hide your kids. Thats probably the most amazingly absurd things I have ever heard of. There is nothing wrong with segregated unions. It really promotes a healthier community in the long run.
alig, I hate partitions. Most of religious conservative (living in western countries and sending their kids to western schools) think partitions will make them good muslim in other people's eyes. This is the tragedy of our desi people, can anybody tell me how showing off how great muslim infront of others make them good in Allah's eyes. :(
Thank you bhai sahab for the agreement. I have a younger sister, but I'd rather her meet/see someone at a wedding function/etc then at her college or something.
It gets really difficult for people with young kids when there is segregation...
when the kid runs from one side to the other, u have to yell out "she's coming" and hope that ur spouse on the other hand is waiting with open arms to receive the kid..
Miss, i walk with lower gaze myself, without checking guys gaze.
and i also have complete faith on ALLAH SWT that is why i dont check out them. (as i only inshaALLAH want to marry one person, and also wanted to be in his heart, well not more than ALLAH SWT)
i wrote those things cuz voyeurism and scopophilia is an important part of my studies.
well what i had experienced is usually in mixed gathering (especially during mehndi) both parties end up with fights...so yeah so-called paray likhay actually fight on "who is better bhund n who is not as everyone wanted be entitled as best bhund"
Dude that’s just weird… personally I wouldn’t be uthaa-ying someone’s nakhray, if htey say they wont come b/c of this or that reason, then they can just not come. Dont need their bad vibes there…
I think majority of the desi weddings i’ve been to, theres an invisible partition where men and women automatically sit on opposite sides… i dont think that’s a big deal.
Yep! went to a wedding like that… i thot it was pointless to kick out the guys but then let hte waiters and Dj and camera man stay behind…but hey if that helps them sleep at night, then who are we to say anything I guess this type of segregation is really only effective when it’s a small number of ppl and the girls can trust that their pics wont get into the “wrong” hands…
