A passing thought.
Especially in the US here. The more I think about it, the more I get pissed. Whats the point of partition? I think this culture of keeping away the sexes really illustrates the hardships youth have, when it comes to marriage and stuff. If anything, weddings should be a place where you can get to meet/find/see potentials in a civil manner.
Disscuss. Why or why not are you against it.
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I am against it, it does not give me an opportunity to check out other ppls behnein aur betiaan. zara maza naheen ata..tarri naheen hoti....
..abay...yaar if ppl want to have separate functions its their choice, aap na jayen
weddings should not be the only or the major venue where ppl can meet potential mates. that is a huge issue and our community in general has failed in this area
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Lots of Mullahs do not show up, if the joyous occassion is mixed, thereby forcing people to segregate.
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your not forcing anyone to segregate, they're invitied, all you doing is telling em to behave!
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well what i had experienced is usually in mixed gathering (especially during mehndi) both parties end up with fights...so yeah so-called paray likhay actually fight on "who is better bhund n who is not as everyone wanted be entitled as best bhund"
your not forcing anyone to segregate, they're invitied, all you doing is telling em to behave!
What you are suggesting is ludicrous. We aren't white people or kallus. We don't dry hump each other on wedding functions.
All I am saying is, that here is a more important issue at stake. The danger of people from our community marrying and dating non muslims is amplified, when the mullah folks FORCE (thats right)...force a partition.
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Obviously we have different views, but why not go the halal way of finding a partner?
Obviously we have different views, but why not go the halal way of finding a partner?
If someone likes a member of the opposite sex, they need to talk to their parents, to talk to the parents of the other person, so that a dialog can get started, the guy and girl can get to know each other, and then decide if they are suitable for each other for marriage.
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well what i had experienced is usually in mixed gathering (especially during mehndi) both parties end up with fights...so yeah so-called paray likhay actually fight on "who is better bhund n who is not as everyone wanted be entitled as best bhund"
Not all parties are same, looks like you experienced with wrong people.
What you are suggesting is ludicrous. We aren't white people or kallus. We don't dry hump each other on wedding functions.
Thats an interesting way to put it.
Obviously we have different views, but why not go the halal way of finding a partner?
This is not the only issue. Marriages are important part of our culture, and like all important parts of my life I would like to sit right beside my wife and daughters.
I barely stopped myself from correcting it, so I do not bring attention to it. But you did it. lol
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well technically her post was accurate as well but i am certain that is not what she intended.
This is not the only issue. Marriages are important part of our culture, and like all important parts of my life I would like to sit right beside my wife and daughters.
Marriage is an important part of the Islam too, so some people choose to do it Islamically.
There are other opportunities for our mahrams to sit right beside us other then weddings.
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well technically her post was accurate as well but i am certain that is not what she intended.
I know X2.
thanks …but may be i used punjabi word.
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Well this culture is still there, even there are still some communities who do not in the favor of sitting the Bride and Bridegrrom beside each other. Bride has her own stage in a saperate 'compartment', where men (even Dulha) is not allowed to enter.
I do not have any prob with it because it's not that silly.
Not all parties are same, looks like you experienced with wrong people.
ahan...are u claiming that u spend ur time at righteous get-togethers?
I barely stopped myself from correcting it, so I do not bring attention to it. But you did it. lol
bari mherbani.
Marriage is an important part of the Islam too, so some people choose to do it Islamically.
There are other opportunities for our mahrams to sit right beside us other then weddings.
There is no right or wrong in the equation.
You do things what you think are important to you and I do things which I know are important to me.
No argument there I believe.
bari mherbani.
Ghussa kyon karti ho. :)