I have heard this thing alot of time by tableighis that when you die and you have been a good muslim , there are 8-14 virgins waiting for you in heaven.
Now my question is why its only said for Men, why not for women. ???
also why for a man its allowed to have 4 wifes and not for a wife to have 4 husbands. becoz women have same sexual needs (more some times) then men???
NOTE: this is a serious topic and I need serious answers to broden my knowledge.
Regards,
Question:
Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is polygamy allowed in Islam?
Answer:
Definition of Polygamy
Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?
2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,"marry only one".
The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives.
In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (95% C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.
3. Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims
The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures.
Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.
4. Qur’an permits limited polygyny
As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:
"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."
[Al-Qur’an 4:3]
Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them.
In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:
"Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women...."
[Al-Qur’an 4:129]
Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.
Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:
‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory
‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged
‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed
‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged
‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden
Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.
5. Average life span of females is more than that of males
By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the females.
During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.
6. India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide
India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males.
*7. World female population is more than male population *
In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.
8. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical
Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.
Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes public property. There is no other option. All those who are modest will opt for the first.
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.
There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.
Question:
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If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a woman from having more than one husband? **
Answer:
A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim men to have more than one spouse while denying the same ‘right’ to women.
Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different, physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different. Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.
Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verses 22 to 24 gives the list of women with who you can not marry and it is further mentions in Surah Nisa’ Chapter 4 verse 24 "Also (prohibited are) women already married"
The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:
1. If a man has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband, only the mother of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father. Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of both parents, mother and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do not know their parents, especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and disturbances. Often they have an unhappy childhood. It is for this reason that the children of prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood. If a child born of such wedlock is admitted in school, and when the mother is asked the name of the father, she would have to give two or more names! I am aware that recent advances in science have made it possible for both the mother and father to be identified with the help of genetic testing. Thus this point which was applicable for the past may not be applicable for the present.
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.
Mate, your replies were the best i have ever got from any one and specially becoz they were also accompanied with the versus of Quran as well as had reall life examples.
my Best Regards to you and honestly i have become a great admirer of you wisdom.
i will also go through the web site you have recomended.
And I wish all the preachers of Islam should have a your wisdom and knowledge, so that people like me with less knowledge can find their right path and proper guidence and people from other religions can understand islam that its all good and nothing bad about being a muslim.
Thank You for your complements. I am only a student who is trying to learn. I have very little knowledge. May Allah show us all the right path and increase our knowledge.
How about the question about virgins? Do the earthly reasons for prohibition of polyandry apply in heaven also?
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How about the question about virgins? Do the earthly reasons for prohibition of polyandry apply in heaven also?
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Nope...The pious and believing women will have serving men...
If given choice i will again be gettign my wife up there in Heaven
Did you ask her if she accepts? 
^^ LoL........:)
Hope tht u go in Heaven and have fun ;)
And pray 4 me tht u have my lovely company aswell
the text in ** * bold / italic * ** :k: 
** ISLAM A BAD ** 
yeah she is cool with it , says wont let you go free in heaven you have married me now suffer for rest of you mortal and imortal life:)
Brother, next time could you please write “Islamabad” as word, and not as Islam a bad. Thank You.
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Name Diana -
**Topic **Faith & Practice
**Title **Heavenly Rewards For Pious Women?
**Question Dear Scholars,
As-slaamu `alaikum, hope you all are well by the grace of Allah.
My question is:
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What will the believing women get in Heaven? In Surah al-Rahman (no. 55) I found that Allah Almighty is telling about the special gifts for men like beautiful "hoors". Is there anything special for women?
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My second question is about women martyr. We know there is the hadith:
“The martyr (shaheed) has seven blessings from Allah: he is forgiven from the moment his blood is first shed; he will be shown his place in Paradise; he will be spared the trial of the grave; and he will be secure on the Day of the Greatest Terror (the Day of Judgment); there will be placed on his head a crown of dignity, one ruby of which is better than this world and all that is in it; he will be married to seventy-two of hoor al-`ayn (most beautiful pure women); and he will be permitted to intercede for seventy of his relatives.”
Here our Prophet (pbuh) addressed the man only. Is there any hadith on women martyr? And what will they get?
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Date 2003/7/24
Name of Consultant Amani Aboul Fadl Farag
Content of Reply **
Salaam Dear Diana,
I see that you are very much concerned with the rewards women martyrs get, are you considering to be one? I hope so!
Mother of the believers, Um Salama had the same question about the equivalent
of hoor al-`ayn to women before you. She asked her question to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and he informed her that the woman's pious husband is going to be her husband in Paradise.
Then she asked him what if a woman has been married to more than one husband through out her life in this dunya (life)? He answered her that she will get the best – regarding piety and manners - amongst them to be her husband.
As for the pious woman herself, whether a martyr or good worshipper,
Allah will not make of her simply a hoor but she will be a mistress of all hoors. They will become maids to her. This means that she will be the most beautiful of them all and the most beloved by her husband among them.
I can read some questions already aroused in your mind!
Supposed a woman was not in love enough with her husband in this life and would not like to take him again! And… how come that a woman accepts to share her husband with all this number of hoors?
Actually, we have to realize that the dwellers of Paradise are not going to be ruled by the same nature of passion that used to rule them in this life. This is such as
hatred and jealousy. They will have a totally different psychology from that
they used to have in this life. It is the special psychological nature of the people of Paradise, which Allah has described in the Qur'an in Surah 43, verse 7. This is when He said the meaning of:
{And we shall remove from heir hearts any rancor}
Even if the husband was not appreciated by his pious wife in this life, Allah is capable of changing his negative nature so to please her in Paradise. In the same way he changes her into the most beautiful woman - while she was so not in this life - just to please him.
As for the second half of your question about rewards given to men martyrs alone, this is a common misunderstanding. A masculine pronoun does not only refer to men in the Arabic language. There is a linguistic rule that exists in both Arabic and English that a masculine pronoun in case of referential ambiguity - that is when the referred to person is not identified - refers to both men and women. The martyr here refers to both he and she martyrs. May Allah make us among them.
Thank you again and please keep in touch.
Salaam.
Without malice, the long and short of the above Q&A seems to be, the man's reward are the virgins in heaven while the woman gets to be the top wife in the harem. Doesn't seem fair at all.
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*Originally posted by Islamabad: *
Brother, next time could you please write "Islamabad" as word, and not as Islam a bad. Thank You.
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i was JUST pointing out the beauty behind our capital city's name (islam a bad) anyways if it makes u feel better here>> ISLAMABAD
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*Originally posted by rally: *
LOL, here in the UK the locality where the ahmadi headquarters are is called islamabad, what a piss taker that is.
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"Rally", Mate what part of the following you guys dont understand,
NOTE: this is a serious topic and I need serious answers to broden my knowledge
there is alot more to islam other than taking about Ahmadis and their wareabouts and if you wana talk for or against them, there are a hell lot topics out there and go and talk in them, but not here Please.
any way, Uzee thanks alot of that explanation dude as it is of great help, and i will also check the recomended web site as well.
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Originally posted by Islamabad: *
Question:
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If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a woman from having more than one husband? **
The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:
2. Man is more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
Agree here. Women (at least many/most) are more inclined to nest with only one partner, and are usually happy and satisfied thus...
3. Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives.
Isn't it a husband obligation to please and satisfy his wife?
A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.
I would think easier for a woman to perform her duties as wife..and today..there is medication for mood swings...:)
4. A woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
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*Originally posted by #let uz chat#: *
i was JUST pointing out the beauty behind our capital city's name (islam a bad) anyways if it makes u feel better here>> ISLAMABAD
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In .....??? whats that word? duh I forgot...lol :)
Oh yeah...slang..... In U.S.A. if you say somthin is bad...like.. oh.. dats bad..
means..
It's phat, butter, cool, coolness, far out, radical, rad, nice, hip, dabomb, withit, right thurr... down with that.. and awsome dude!!!
In other words..
A complement.
Re: Why Virgins promised for men in haven and not for women???
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*Originally posted by kewlsolara: *
I have heard this thing alot of time by tableighis that when you die and you have been a good muslim , there are 8-14 virgins waiting for you in heaven.
Now my question is why its only said for Men, why not for women. ???
also why for a man its allowed to have 4 wifes and not for a wife to have 4 husbands. becoz women have same sexual needs (more some times) then men???
NOTE: this is a serious topic and I need serious answers to broden my knowledge.
Regards,
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Because Women are considered second to men in Islam and most other relions... God caters to the needs of men first...