Actually, the reasons I hear these days for divorce are not abuse, cheating or anything like that. Its falling out of love, too much fighting, or some other reason.
What happens if you fall out of love? You try to fall back into it and make an effort to rediscover what you fell for in the first place. I mean, you spent your whole life without this guy and managed to fall for him. Im pretty sure if you tried it might happen again. The point is, the reasons behind divorce in our generation are not the dire ones we think they are. Ive heard of cheating, abuse but Ive heard of superficial reasons more then real ones.
I dont think staying together for the sake of kids is that uncommon but I dont think its bad either. I know couples who went through a lull like that and contemplated divorce but then things changed. They went for counseling and were able to resolve their issues. I think a lot of married couples go through a period like that but its part of their journey. Marriage isnt supposed to be a bed of roses all the time.
Regardless, my point is simply that being a FOB or being rejected solely on the basis of the place of your birth is ridiculous. Ive been judged because I was born in the US and I think everyone here knows how much I hate the prejudices that come with it…like being uncultured, not religious, having no morals or values, not knowing any Urdu, not knowing how to cook, being awara, etc. This is what people assume about ABCDs. And we hate it. We assume the same thing about FOBs and that makes it worse.
One more thing: most educated FOBs these days are not looking for the stay at home wife anymore. They want someone who can be a team player. That is a fact.