I wonder if you guys who think all women after marriage get ugly and fat think of your mothers. Was your mother so bad to look at that you decide to discredit an entire race? You think she had time to hit a treadmill after wiping the shiiit from your butts or feeding you the food she worked so damn hard to cook, you spoiled stupid lazy boys who don't even deserve a beautiful woman coz of ur damn shallowness.
My mother was thin when she and my dad got married; then after yrs of babies, miscarriages, and early menopause, she gained a LOT of weight. To his credit my dad never bugged her about losing weight or called her ugly or anything AND he never looked at other women or had gfs on the side like most guys nowadays would, judging by teh responses here. Instead he went to hajj and prayed she'd want to lose weight on her own, and she did....
Yeah and then watch your sons call all women like you bulldozers and ugly and fat :halo: But of course mothers are different, mothers deserve all the respect in the world, and they do, but I guess that izzat isn’t extend to ALL women
Based on Sara's post, it is okay to overlook women who are obese, cuz after all some of our mommies are leviathans too; and doing so would be a double-standard, right??
And then by the same standards, if we select a wife based on the all good qualities (thanks PCG for your attention to details) that our abovementioned mommies posses, we are immediately labeled as mama's boy or having Oedipal Compex.
If i am into bobbies(sic), you jump and say i wasn't breastfed enuff, and if i am not into
bobbies.....okay...that's a lame argument....
Jokes aside, I dont think what i want in a woman should have anything to do with how my mother is???Am i right??
I never said it was alright to overlook obesity. However, demanding your wife get into model-shape immediatley after having children is too much. The husband should encourage his wife to go to the gym and cook better meals and make regular visits to the salon. He also should be supportive, like exercise with you and help you plan healthy meals. Just bitching about how fat your wife is, giving her names and stuff, isn't going to accomplish anything and it's going to make you look like an ass.
Our parents are naturally teh biggest role models and examples in our lives, for everything, habits, manners, views values and how we view the opposite sex. If my father had been an assshole, I would probably hate men and the thought of marriage. I don't think it is sick or Freudian to want the same qualities in a significant other. Dope you said so yourself one time, your mom took care of you and you want a wife to do the same...
But my problem is that when guys diss pakistani women, or any woman for that matter, calling them fat or ugly or whores. It's as if they dont' realize they're talking about someone's mother. Like I said in another post, you're supposed to love and respect your mom, of course, but with the comments here it seems as if this respect isn't extended to any other woman. Do you think it's respectful saying that women who have kids end up looking like bulldozers or are lazy and ugly?
A step further… why on earth is it so hard to realize that if you guys want this, you have to help also?? How on earth is a woman supposed to do alll that is expected of her and have the time for a regular work out??? Half the time we are dead on our feet after kids, work, then house cleaning…
Just to have some fat pig of a man laze about the house in underwear and a robe in front of a TV (after all he puts in 40 hrs, right?)), bitching about how YOU look…
Get a grip guys, help out, become interactive with your wife, actually appreciate what she does (as opposed to ignoring her and ALWAYS pointing out what she should change about herself) and she will take extra pains to be what you want of her - emotionally and physically.
It seems the mindset of most you guys is… well, she is priveledged enough to have my name, my work is done, what else does she want? And then you wonder why she turns to other things, and let me tell you, count your blessings it is food as opposed to another man who actually pays attention to the good things about your woman…
Sara,
I don't really believe in the title of the thread, but i see a lot of double standard here too. Some of the women here have voiced their disgust at bald and pot-bellied men with complementary hairy posteriors. Before you say such things, you oughtta remember your fathers too:D.
Dope, that "disgust" is in retaliation to how soem guys have expressed thier disgust at women gaining weight after marrying and having children. Hairiness and baldness are things that cannot be prevented or eliminated w/o spending extensive time or amt of $$ fixing it, and I think theres better things to spend money on than hair plugs... like a gym membership :D
All the poor guy asked was why do women blow up after marriage. If the reasons are kids, 24/7 work, and just cuz all mothers are fat then hey Understood :Salute:
There is no reason why people should respect their bodies.
Those women in here that are jumping on babaakhan for asking an honest and totally legitimate question are only doing this because they are fat and ugly themselves. Sara, PCG and other bachelorette woman in this thread is being defensive because they are fat and worry constantly about finding a husband who is willing to overlook their fatness. Minap and her married gang is being defensive because they don’t want to exercise for their husband due to the fact that they are lazy and they think that they already have a man, they don’t need to look good. Divorce in america is a biatch. They fully understand that their hubbies won’t divorce them because the amreeki court system will take half of their meager salary and give it to the fat arsed wife.
atlantaism no. 278 concludes.
Don’t bother replying to my post. I will not get into an argument with blimp-sized desi womens. You people aren’t good enough or shall I say skinny enough to talk to me.
WEll the answer is simple: all desi ugly bald husbands want to eat is rich, fried and heavy food so the wife puts all her effort in making that and the poor thing ends up eating it as well because she is so busy doing all the other loads of work required by the ugly bald husband and his family and does not have time to make healthy sensible food for herself.
There are only 4 reasons why a average paki man marries:
for sex
for good food
children
Take care for his parents/family
What do you expect after all this hard labor. Do you see anytime a paki woman has to giver herself????
Now, if the bald ugly thing helped out a little, maybe things would be a little different.
