why should we adjust?

[mirage]

Re: why should we adjust?

@Muzna

but that place has been a war zone for sometime now…nothing new.
the power outages are nothing new
the economy being bad is nothing new
sub standard living with no entertainment is nothing new
temperature is nothing new
all inlaws can be moody at times…nothing special or new

perhaps you knew all this and agreed…perhaps you have found that you have limitations.
have you tried admitting this to your husband and letting him know that you are on the verge of a breakdown?
have you shared your heartfelt dissatisfaction with him and asked for his help?

maybe its the clash between theoretical and practical life. things seem nicer from a distance. its easier said than done, but no one can deny shocks come in fold of marriage. Nadz there isnt anything bad in improving your life but everything comes after how do you value your husband. If he says you people will go back and you believe he does what he says things should be easier for you because there is a hope. Whining and sulking is not a solution. either change your situation OR learn to live with it, this is not adjustment, a rule of life for your own convenience. You have a kid alright and I dont think your kid deserves to be broughtup in an atmosphere where there are everyday clashes of opinions and perspectives. I feel you need to be practical and see what you can do to make things easier for you if you can.