Thanks for responding, but its not the mother issue that I was thinking about at the time. My kids still have their mom and at 16 and 13, they are pretty well adjusted and happy. I am being a little selfish here and asking what are the benefits of marrying a pakistani woman over say any other woman of any other culture for me, who is Pakistani by birth? I hate to say this, but I am not a muslim, so the religion thing is not a good argument to use with me, at least not at the moment. What are the advantages and disadvantages for someone like me who has a college degree, is very westernized, who is traveled to many different countries, and who deep inside still feels a longing for the mountains and foothills of his homeland. Someone who feels homesick at the sound of a sitar, the smell of pakortas and Paratas, and who's ears prick up whenever Urdu or Pukhto are spoken. At this point why should I or should I want to marry a pakistani girl?
I can see that with many of you my age is a factor. I accept that, I am not a young man, I know this, but at the same time, I am very young for my age, and I am often mistaken for someone in his 30's or told that I am youthful enough to be in my 30's. I have no illusions about finding someone who is way too young for me, but at the same time, I know that within the culture younger women marrying older men is quite normal. I am dating a 33 year old woman now, but she is not Pakistani. Also, I am not traditional in the sense that a Pakistani woman for me has to be a virgin or never married before. I would gladly consider a widow, or someone who was previously married but who is now divorced. So putting aside all the age issues, why should I consider marrying a Pakistani woman.
And for the record, I am not wealthy, but I do have a good job, I am kind, loving, affectionate, respectful, playful, compassionate, loyal, honorable, trustworthy, and a whole host of other qualities that I am sure many would find worth having. Just ask my mom! I love to sing, read, fish, boat, hike, camp, travel, go to the movies, theater, and so on and so forth. My problem is American women often can't accept my pakistaniness...is that even a word? Lastly, does any of this even sound like something a 46 year old would write?
Contradiction alert.