Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
Women who are truly suppressed and deserve to be given their rights, can not even spell the word 'rights'.** They don't even know what on earth are feminists and women's rights movements**.
seems like you don't either.
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn’t?
No one is saying abandon parents or family.
And yet there are men who get married and cannot afford to have separate house and they are not willing to live in with their in-laws. There is no solution for that and these kind of situation is quite common.
It is silly to think the men would live with his in-laws.
No idea why some women want to re-invent the wheel for few bad MIL’s or in-laws. 
P.S. Bella don’t get personal-just a reminder!! Talk in general.
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
seems like you don't either.
awwwwww. you know you are too uncool to be argued with
I know…how silly to uproot your life and family and live under someone elses’ roof, by their rules, under their scrutiny. Not to see your parents, brothers sisters…so silly. Men need to be with their parents at all times.
A woman after marriage is the man’s responsibility. He provides clothing, shelter and protection to her once nikkah is done. Which is the main reason men don’t live with in-laws, as they (girl and her family) would kind of be supporting the girl + husband (i think)…HOWEVER…this doesn’t mean the wife cuts off all ties with her parents and melds into susraal, or that men have to be so cold/disdainful about what the wife goes thru (living with inlaws is normal, why are women complaining etc) The Quran never distinguishes between male and female when talking about our duties to our parents…not even once. Not when it comes to financial or physical care. Never. I have heard so many times aunties saying…“omg our bahu is great, she doesn’t even remember her family lolz” - i think that’s insulting. But in out pseudo-Islamic society this is some point of pride. Women can’t bear the responsibility of their parents bcos men think their parents are more important.
I remember a thread some lady made a while back…she wasn’t able to support her parents (who only had daughters) bcos her husband was an a**hole. Anyhow…i just posted this bcos reading some of the responses over the past few pages was so disappointing. Hope it made sense.
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
No one is saying abandon parents or family.
I have read numerous posts on this forum where if a guy leaves his parents home after marriage to live separately with his wife only, people call that abandoning his parents. lets be fair then and use the same term for girls who leave their parents at rukhsati.
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And yet there are men who get married and cannot afford to have separate house and they are not willing to live in with their in-laws. There is no solution for that and these kind of situation is quite common.
It is silly to think the men would live with his in-laws.
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then it should be silly for women to live with inlaws. why such double standards?
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn’t?
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
as we are Muslim , so according to islam a boy does work outside with other man and girls stay at home and do house chores , but now a days girls and boys both are working in the same boat , phir b jo kam boys kar saktay hain wo kam girls nhi , q k Quran main Allah ne saaf mention kia hy k dono her terha equal hain lekin admiyon ko ek step fazeelat di gai hy q k wo kamatay hain .. Isi waja se girls ko boys k pas jana parta hy gher chhor kar .
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
^ haan to theek hai, jaain boys kay paas. lekin boys kay ghar walon kay saath rehna kyun zaroori hai? ab agar aap islam ki baat karain tu ye susraal ka system bilkul islamic nahi hai.
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
Dear Bella
sorry to say but its a fact that Pakistani culture is unfair abt male-female & gender is matter, boy is preferred!
truly speaking fair is that, both will leave parents home & make new life but there in Pakistan they made this culture strong by giving guilty feeling to a man if he leaves his parents, but reality is this, that parents can live alone same like they started their life alone as well, when it comes to their old lonely time(in case of age or one parents will pass away) then its duty of all kids to take care of them.
if any man will come & say its western culture or its unfair or its very odd to do, this means he isnt fair,as accordingly if u have only daughter u dont have to expect help.
this is wrong culture in which u make a girl force to take care of ur parents bcz u want to be a good son u r doing Zulm with a girl, its not easy to adjust with a new person as husband or wife then they r forcing girls to adjust with a full family in name of respect to their own parents, Zulm is Zulm whether its ur parents or ur wife but in name of culture no one see how much its hard for a girl , spceially when no man tried this drama before!!!!
if u force men to live full time under their father-in-law's eyes then u will see 1000 more stories abt groom & in-laws issues!
just don't do unfair with anyone in name of islam or culture
Re: why should a girl leave her parents home but guys shouldn't?
Think its a tradition for a women to leave and live with her husband, this also happens in the west also, you now have nuclear families in the west, as both male and females have equal opportunities to provide, and care for,
Again its also cultural, and some ways religious see bahisti zewar for a huband to provide for his wife shelter, food and security from want and need.