my brother is a friend with this girl who goes to his college. she is a very happy go lucky sort of a person, friends with everyone.
last year she started liking that person and she started seeing him. they kissed hugged etc, didn’t sleep around though. planned to get married to each other once he is out of the college. she was 19 back then and the guy was 20 years old. few months later her parents find out about their relationship and got really mad and send the girl to pakistan and got her married to the first rishta they find. they guy who she got married to is 11 years older then her and not very educated at all. he runs a small business and lives with his family. he has a very pakistani mentality and doesn’t take her out for dinner or lunch and not very responsible. he never gave her any money, or took her out for dinner, shopping etc. according to her she tried her best to love himr but she couldn’t.
few months after the shadi she came back to america so she can file his paper and stuff. after she came back their conversation on phone started out very sweet but later it turned in to fights because she said he doesn’t care about anything. if she calls he would talk to her but doesn’t call her on his own. he was not very affectionate to her in anyways and just showed his interest in coming to america, but didn’t take any responsibility of filling the paper or anything, all of it was done by his uncle, and the girl’s father.
when she wanted to go back to pakistan the guy and his family showed no interest in her getting her back because according to her they were scared that if she comes back he might never be able to go to america. and when she insisted a lot they asked her father to pay for her tickets and other expense.
she did managed to have some feelings in her heart for her husband while she was in pakistan but after their bad behavior over the phone she lost those feeligns.
while all this was going on she enrolled back in college and started chatting with her old boy friend again along with some other guys. when my brother tried to talk to her about not getting in to boys again she said that she is just friend with them and she wouldn’t do anything. but she still sneak out of college to see guys which she calls are “just” her friends nothing else. at the same time she says she has no love for her husband in her heart but she still has feelings for her boyfriend.
she listens to my brother a lot, do you guys think my brother should advice her to get divorce or try her best to live with her husband who is coming to america in few months.
and how the hell do we stop her making same mistakes she made before which resulted in her marriage.
agreed, the parents should have just let her do what she wanted rather than stepping in and forcing her to marry some village idiot from pakistan. dunno why they could not have minded their own business
