Why paki guys watch porn - guy's perspective

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bennylava June 7, 2012, 8:17pm 1

This is for girls who keep asking porn questions.
This is response to an article by two guys, out of many.

The urge to eat something, when you are hungry, is NATURAL. It was put in you by God himself. Same is the case with lust. GOD Himself gave it to me and there are reasons. He sent Eve with Adam to earth. Adam was NOT alone.

To satisfy that built-in urge, God Himself told me to get married. There are hundreds of ahadith directing parents to arrange marriage for their kids once they are *baligh

Do OUR parents listen to the Creator? even His messenger? NO. Still they are annoyed of be rah ravi?

They SHOULD have seen it coming.

Now, our so called exemplary society, makes us wait for around 30 years to get married. WTF? It wont let us demand our right to marriage unless we are financially STABLE. Again, WTF? Can i live without eating anything? NO. Can i live without satisfying my urge/lust? A bigger NO.

I desperately find respite in material like p**n BECAUSE i have NO OTHER way to vent out the buildup. Give US the right to marry as soon as we are done with education, and there will be a significant decline in objectionable behavior of all sorts. Be it porno, or stalking girls.
Mods: I hope you will not edit anything. I am speaking for males here. We can talk about rights of gays, lesbos, and all sort of crap. Why are we so blind that we do not talk about our right to marry IN TIME?

Marrying late is a worldwide phenomenon, e.g. in US and Europe. But these countries don’t have any restrictions on pre-marital sex. Teens here have active sexual lives. The ones who don’t are either not pretty / handsome or obese. So, they either end up depressed / stressed or dead (suicide). It’s unique and very, very strange for a non-Muslim to come to know that Muslim guys stay virgins for 25, 30, 35 or 40 years

For example, I finished my Bachelor’s in accounting by age 22. I started to work. So, I have a job and an education. Could I get married as per Islamic rules? Yes. Could I get married as per Pakistani society’s rules? No.

**I worked for 6 years. I am also addicted to porn but I wanted to get rid of this habit by getting into a halal relationship; a marriage. No one in Pakistani community would give me their girl, although, they all respect me and know me as a mature guy. Could I get in a MBA school if I wanted to? Yes, but I didn’t want to for professional reasons. Finally, I surrendered and got my MBA. Now, people are lined up. **Suddenly, it seems I’ve become more mature, more educated, more marriage-material. But I did not learn anything from my MBA. It did not change me at all. I am still the same mature, educated, pre-MBA guy. What changed? I can bring more dollars home.

hareem01 June 7, 2012, 8:28pm 2

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Alright, so men replace sex with porno and women with shoes?

The article raised some valid points...there should be no reason why an adult person should not experience sex in his wonderful years. The best solution would be to get your nikah done without any other commitments of bearing kids or expanses. But yeah, our society and culture is illogical.

PyariCgudia June 7, 2012, 8:30pm 3

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that's total bs, not all of us girls are asking for MBA's.

If dude has a job or in the process of getting one, i'm ok with it.

bennylava June 7, 2012, 8:33pm 4

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yea, the whole point of the post was about the MBA degree

Summerbr June 7, 2012, 8:35pm 5

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There are some valid points being made. However, a lot of paki men get married in their early 20s. And also to get married is usually a lot easier for men that women, so I don't see what issues a guy would have getting married with a Bachelors and I'm assuming having some kind of job.

Also, a man has to be able to support a family before marrying and / or having kids. Otherwise, who else is going to support his family?

bennylava June 7, 2012, 8:39pm 6

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Only very rich, or poor people guys get married early. Middle class guys get married in late 20's at least.

so you approve of porn watching etc??

PyariCgudia June 7, 2012, 8:50pm 7

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what?? that's not true. the vast majority of muslim desi guys in the US are getting hitched in their early 20's.

Summerbr June 7, 2012, 8:55pm 8

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lol @ Bennylava - so you're saying that the guy's parents should support his wife and kids? Or maybe the neighbours should support them?

Really if the guy can't support his wife and kids, his wife may run off with one of the neighbours who's paying for her upkeep and he'll have other things to worry about than just porn.

TLK June 7, 2012, 9:00pm 9

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Yeahhhh

wait, does he need to be unmarried?

j/k

Krypton June 7, 2012, 9:04pm 10

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cuz they dont get laid enough.

period.

TLK June 7, 2012, 9:06pm 11

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this logic makes the paki girls look bad, as they dont watch (excessive) porn.

Sara516 June 8, 2012, 12:31am 12

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OP i hate you...Because now that bennylava song is stuck in my head. thanksalot.

The_Last_Straw June 8, 2012, 12:33am 13

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^LOL, that's an awesome username. You can't take someone with such a nick seriously.

bebo June 8, 2012, 1:14am 14

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Teens here have active sexual lives. The ones who don’t are either not pretty / handsome or obese. So, they either end** up depressed / stressed or dead (suicide)**. It’s unique and very, very strange for a non-Muslim to come to know that Muslim guys stay virgins for 25, 30, 35 or 40 years

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What a pathetic thing to say!!
There are many communities in America who follow their religion/culture and don’t indulge in premarital sex.
Non muslims are more open mined about personal preferences of others than muslims.

SaeedinPakistan June 8, 2012, 1:15am 15

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No on has to support anyone they weren't supporting already. The husband and wife can both live with their own parents(separately) until they can support themselves. And there is such a thing as birth control. The kids can be delayed until their early 30's too. And there you have it a halal relationship the moment you hit puberty.

Midnight_express_91 June 8, 2012, 1:27am 16

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they have clearly never jacked off........

hitman007 June 8, 2012, 10:33pm 17

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lame excuse

S02 June 9, 2012, 1:09am 18

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Guys are looking at porn at 14. And they aren't looking to get married.

NaMaan June 9, 2012, 1:25am 19

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Defending a haram act is immature . No wonder he is still single .

mrayyazee June 9, 2012, 6:41am 20

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watching porn, sad but true fact.as long as some 1 is talking about the 14 year watching porn thats like in west 10 or 11 year involving in sex & then at this age girls are pregnant.1 more point those person who were in a married life & now they are seprated or single due to any reason, they are also in deep trouble for the emotional point of view, now i know its haraam but it is less harram then to invole in adultry.