Having just started viewing these threads I have noticed that we love to comment on the choices people make when it comes to not buying the "authentic" designer dress or the poor choice in jewelry. We need to change ourselves and appreciate the choices that others have made in choosing to bypass the expensive boutiques and choosing dresses/jewelry that are not price tagged in the hundreds of thousands of dollars. *We are the ones that stimulate the minds of other members on these forums and elsewhere by stating why is the fabric of that dress cheap? That's all the jewelry your parents gave you for your wedding? I mean come on!! There are brides out there who wear simple items and have simple weddings yet they are content. Why say on these threads and elsewhere demeaning things? *
I am not married yet but my parents are already stressing over the financial burden of my wedding. I am not saying that I want my wedding to be plain and simple. I desire the same things that others desire for but I know that I am limited in resources. This is the reason why I don't want to get married in Pakistan. Why? Because everyone there is obsessed over the idea of competition. Competition not in intellect, not in knowledge, not in deen but in FINANCIAL wealth! My dad is in politics and a few family members from one of the former prime ministers of Pakistan came to our house. The daughter was talking about the extravagant way families spend money on weddings. She was stating how you must have a wedding in a tent otherwise you will look cheap. You must have hoards of flowers otherwise the venue is plain. You must have a minimum of 4 to 5 major venues planned for the wedding festivities.
One must afford what one can and not over spend on items that are worthless and useless. However even in the US the fashion of extravagance has arrived. There was an article done by a celebrity wedding planner who planned a wedding on a budget. He stated that if you are on a tight budget heed the advice of choosing a venue where very little needs to be done. Don't choose venues of prime ministers, president's, celebrities because you as well as majority of the world cannot afford what they can.
Overall, we cannot change everyone nor can we choose the qualities we want in our in laws. We can pray but we must also use our brains and understand that we are not going to get everything we want. Have the wedding of your dreams the way you want and forget all opposition/opinions of your choices! :)
I completely agree!! the adverse effects of demeaning and complex creating remarks have a LOT to do with how and why people spend the way the do...
and then...after spending and putting on a show.... they feel obligated to brag about it.
The guy hadn’t even set his foot on Canadian land at that time, let alone having a job that could pay the mortgage but if you tell this fact to people like her, then all hell would break loose.