Re: Why oh why!
This is a really big thread and come to think of it, it can be broken down into smaller threads that can be discussed separately. well i wont go into a lenghty discussion regarding jahez/bari but i do have a few things to say regarding us girls ourselves. After the fact, its a lot easier for many girls to say we didnt like our parents spending so much on our wedding. However, at the time of the wedding we girls do want to have a little bit of everything and there is so much competition going on in our culture. So when we get all those clothes made, which is like 50 or even 100 in some cases, we decide to wear them once or twice or thrice and then they get locked up in a suitcase and stored away somewhere never to be seen again! I got married 4 years back and a lot of the things I got made are no longer in fashion, for example, the long kameez is now in! I dont believe in throwing away my old stuff and replacing it with all the new stuff that is in . For my sisters recent engagement, i chose to wear a knee length kameez with shalwar which was 4 years old. I do not have any regrets in doing this and REPEATING something old! I have also given alot of my clothes for alteration since I lost some weight after my wedding. I am saying all this to make some of us realise that its not a wise thing to spend hard earned money, be it our parents or husbands, on clothes for the rest of our lives! Spending wisely is a good habit and adopting to it sooner is better!
Its a good thing to treat yourself to a nice new pair of shoes or suit occassionally but we ourselves have to change first in order to stop all the evil in society!