Why oh why!

alvena, the moment you find out where you are getting married, get to know your inlaws..be expressive in a gentle way, and let yourself be heard!
its a process...you know your inlaws (husband) will be responsible for one of your dresses..let them know your likes and dislikes..make it visual..you are not only developing a relationship with your MIL ...its totally healthy..and normal to talk to her about this topic...and its worth it!

this way you are less likely to get a wedding outfit that you dislike.