Re: Why oh why!
an advice can go so far..
if all we do is talk about it, the issue will remain..it would be ideal if the future brides AND grooms form a pact to NOT accept and exchange gifts, jahez/bari...for the sake of everyone..i hate to see the married couples fighting over what they got and did not get..
once you are married..buy whatever you want...for now, focus on feeding the guests you have invited..and guard your dignity by standing up for what is RIGHT!
I am sure, if we focus on only the wedding day (and not the stupid rasams) people can have their children married off earlier, because they dont need to accumulate twice,three times.. as much money to fulfill the unnecessary demands and rasams...