Re: Why oh why!
^primitive i say!!! such a shame!! why dont they understand you cant "buy" respect...whether its the parents or the brides....its like they are trying to buy future...which is virtually impossible...
manic spending is NOT proportional to gaining respect...rather its the other way around!
Girls who are afraid of circumstances of saying no, I know you keep thinking "its better said than done" but I thought that too! I would never have married into a family who has no shame in asking for jahez and caused problems by threatening to break rishta! so what!!! i have no shame in telling everyone WHY I broke the rishta!! they didnt break it because of me...or MY faults! infact i would proudly get myself out of the situation.
*It happened to my cousin, she was engaged to someone, arranged and all...the guys's mother came by with a list(included everything from rebuilding a hardwood floor of her ENTIRE home to constructing an "annex" next to the existing house...car etc)...and my uncle told them off, and broke the engagement right there and then! saying "if your can son drive the car he already has, my daughter has absolutely no problem riding with him in that car." Now she is married, and her MIL, is Alhamdulilah the nicest lady you will ever meet. She made my aunt promise that she will not give anything to anyone, except her daughter! Both parties are very well off MA....and that fact has had no effect on their behavior or their attitudes.