"secondly, you can wear a dress again to a dawat! people do it all time..even the rich and the famous repeat outfits...its no biggie..."
^ Agree! I do think that one can get away with repeating outfits to a dawat...especially because most dawats will be attended by you and your immediate family. The hosts don't know what you wore last weekend :-) But again, if someone has a large extended family and will be attending many dawats, it makes sense to make more outfits compared to a person who doesn't have a large social circle. So I can see the argument both ways but moderation should still be mphasized. Just becasuse you CAN, doens't mean it's OK to do so. It's funny that we are talking about this today becasue I was discussing this with my husband last night. He doesn't have a large desi social circle (lives in California) so I won't need loads of desi outfits. I know that if he was to be living in Toronto, I'd need more than 10 formals because I have a large extended family and we would be attending more dawats. What really works to my advanatge is that the clothes I wear to post-weding dawats in Toronto (as we will be here for a few days after the shaadi) I can easily repeat them in California :-)
exactly naqsa!! we are fixing to go to pak in jan 2010..and it will be the first time for me after the wedding..
so after plenty of planning...I have decided on many ways to save money..
one of them being...
instead of visiting each house...(we will have 10 days in pak) we are going to have 4 parties.
so 4 parties mean 4 outfits...instead of 40 outfits for 40 different dawats/households.
I talked it out with my husband, and he was happy to know that I can come up with solutions to actually save money! :) (although he credits me entirely for the wedding planning as well..where i got exactly what i wanted..within a friendly budget)
planning planning planning is the KEY!!