Re: Why Most Of The Guys …
BTW My ex wife, it was all a love marriage, my parents certainly did not want me to marry her! I was crazy about her though.
We met, we started sleeping together, then one day out of guilt decided that we might as well get nikah if we were going to keep sleeping together, and it was all horrible, a nasty experience. So we just went to the mosque after Asr and did it, just 2 witnesses. That’s it.
It was my fault too, I should have never ever slept with her before marriage, but I was completely drowning in my lust, as she had that whole curvaceous thing going on. I am only a human being. Now that I look back, I feel almost disgusted with myself, I mean I lost total control of myself.
There was no elders involved, no blessings from my grandparents, parents etc..you need that, you may think you don’t but you do!
You need their duas. You should take their “mashfara” even if you don’t agree in the end, you should at least consult them, they have the experience. Many of our youth today think they “know it all”, no you don’t.
3 months after marriage(and 9 months of dating) , we had a huge huge fight over the phone, and 10 minutes later I found myself writing her a divorce note emailing it to her, that’s what happens when Shaitan is involved. She dared me to write it to her and I was like “Oh yeah, here you go you ****” . The sad part is the fight was over something very stupid, and small, it just escalated. But Alhamdullilah it was for the best.
And this is exactly what my parents warned me about, as in 5 min they figured out she was a person of bad character. (She came to my house for dinner a few times).
right, it’s so okay for you to end up with a “pure” wife when you yourself aren’t “pure” at all. Bechaari biwi aap ki, na insaafi huwi us ke saath to (if we look at all this from your perspective)
Anyways grow up!