Re: Why Most Of The Guys …
yea I’ve heard of cases similar to the ones you are telling me,where the family lies about the guy and the marriage ends up in divorce. You can’t just believe everything family tells you, find out about them in the community and from people that know them. Ask around, that’s a good way of knowing.. People will end up telling the truth, listen to what their close circle of friends and relatives have to say and then ask other people such as at the masjid, college, work area as well. Thoroughly investigate and take your time, don’t rush into a rishta, everyone I know who rushed into a rishta, ended in a divorce.
Personally, I don’t think there is anything wrong if you’ve had a past, majority have a past, if you like someone and talk to them, there is no harm, and whatever else the case might be. I think it just teaches us something about people and what we really want or don’t want in a life partner. But if I was getting involved with someone who had a past and his ex or other people warned me about him, I would think twice. Fact is, others do see things you may not.