I came across a few threads on this forum concernig In-Laws behaviours, etc. Ever since the dawn of saga of getting married, we have known that its not a smooth sailing. Something makes the relationship go sour sooner or later. Love-marriage or arranged, all such relationships are infected with this malice of hopeless struggle to keep the relationship alive. Wouldnt this be a better option not to marry at all?
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You are a zalim wadera and don't have to marry :p
I don't think there's anything that you should be scared of. Marriage is all about compromises and as you sait, it's not a smooth sailing. There are ups and downs and the best way to deal with them is to face them and try to solve them, rather than being chickened out and decide not to marry at all. That's not a solution in my opinion. If I am facing problems in my marriage, I will not ignore or go to a counselor or come on gupshup and ask for advice, I would directly talk to my wife and solve the issues.
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wat the person above me said!
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I think it's best to enter marriage with a clear head. We're too influenced by dramas, and happily-ever-after Bollywood/Hollywood stories. We grow up thinking that marriage will be wonderful adn a bed of roses. I want to ge married, but I think I've good, realistic reasons to... I don't believe that one can truly stay single for long. It's impossible to do so.
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pro creation my friend - pro creation
unless you do not find anything against procreating out of wed-lock :-p
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On another note …
I’ve always wondered about those people who say they never want to marry. What do they do abou tthier desires? Cmon, we’re all human, we all have em, it’s not dirty or shameful. Now, since pre- or extra-marital sex or even masturbation is not an option for many of us Muslims, then what? I know fasting and prayer are supposed to help u to control ur desires, but we’re not superhumans who never get the urge… So..yeah…
Sex should never be the primary reason to get married, but hey if we’re encouraged to marry at the earliest age possible, then why not?..There IS much more to marriage than just sex, but it’s ridiculous to ignore that it’s one of the perks of life.
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^
Surah Mominoon tells us that it is commanded to get married once you are capable of marrying.. ..
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Issues like in-law involvement should be discussed before marriage. Sounds ridiculous, but it is serious enough that girls go nuts over this, so why not. If you are thinking of marriage, nothing shouldn't be discussed that could potentially impact your marriage. If you are afraid to ask a question, then you shouldn't marry yet,
Anyway.......
With my husband, I told him NO way was my mother living with us, then preceded to beg, plead, grovel, and finally cry until he agreed.
Hey, what ever works.
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ok for some reason, that order appeared to be so funny 
drama queen one has to be. really 
J/K
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oh no !
I am afraid it is the prescribed control but as u said we are not super humans. We must get married as soon as possible.
and to be very honest the success secret is one’s Ikhlaqs and nothing else, and all of us lack them alot.
(I have postponed getting married for 2 years)
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AQ - absolutely drama queen about my mom living with me again, but crying being the ultimate weapon, has to be last in the persuading husband to do something barrage.
Always works.......
**I always try to use my powers for good :) *
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You are right, there is no other reason other than tradition and the cute factor. O and if you want rights over your partner in the eyes of the law. Half property etc and the kids.
Sara, what do you think Nuns do.
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Who knows. It's unnatural to control yourself like that. And even if they do somehow...fix..those desires, it's still wrong at least compared to marriage..
And Hiccup I bet in two years you will be engaged :p
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hiccup - bite your tongue :)
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whatever popes do in the basements 
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What I meant by the reference was: Nuns are able to abstain - they are human, its a matter of principles if you don't believe in marrage and pre marital sex - go the abstinance way, it can be done.
Obviously the motivation is different, but in the end the sun total is the same.
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I bet there isn’t a guy in the world who can make me commit.
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Yes there is. Usually teh ones who cry "no marriage!", they succumb the quickest :D
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oh please. I already have a wager on for this summer which I am going to win. I refuse to marry. Relationships re fine. Weddings arent. I hate the politics of commitment.
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Isn't a relationship a commitment?