but matter isnt my culture or his culture...
im saying u should follow islam....if u r muslim...i dont care abt other ppl life but ill follow islam in cases our cultures wont work! allah says no diffrences between ppl as long as they r muslim for same reason if we follow cultures then no mean of being same...
& why we should feel we cant follow islam! its just need to stand & say a big No to cultures cuz then later u should stand in qiyamah & reply if ur culture contrdict to islam! but if it doesnt then still logic works better than customs rather u both r agree for a culture or custom to do it
reason is: out of family --> better way to knw his fam, be a part of his family, islam also say to take care of ur parents when they cant take of them self (^^) and i have always have this thinking to live in a joint family :)
^^The way you put it, joint family does seem to have quite a lot of advantages.
When I was younger I hated the joint family system. The reason for that was our family lived in the Middle East until quite recently and we had no relatives there. My parents have lived separately since they got married. When I would come to Pakistan I would see the shor sharaba and the dramas of joint families, the larai jhagray, the lack of privacy and personal space and I hated it. I couldn't understand how people could handle that. Since we moved here and I started giving the whole marriage thing more thought, joint family has started to look a lot better, if only for the simple reason that it is more practical. Also once you've spent nearly 5 years living away from home due to college, etc. you start valuing your family a lot more and I don't think I'm quite ready to start living separately right after marriage.
o good ...do u wish i chamge topic to guess where im from?
it will be a nice thread...lol
realy i dont know how to explian more abt myself...
Is just telling what language you speak is also a taboo for you? The way you talk about the norms in of your nameless country and comment on Pakistani culture, its really not hard to feel curious.
is there any one that u know that lives with girl's parents?
& among thoes men who loves joint system as respecting will they accept to live with their in-lwas? if not why?
No, never. There is the small matter of a man's ego. Living independently is one thing, living with the in laws for a guy is unthinkable, unless it's for a certain reason for a temporary period.
*is there any one that u know that lives with girl's parents?
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& among thoes men who loves joint system as respecting will they accept to live with their in-lwas? if not why?
One of my cousins 'back home' has her husband living with her and her mum (sort of). Her dad died and she has no siblings at all. Also, her mum has severe health issues (and I don't mean the 'standard' diabetes, high cholesterol etc that so many MILs claim makes them so ill they need looking after). I'm not too sure if it's a permanent thing, they've only been married about a year.. Also, the couple live in an annexe so they aren't sharing a kitchen or bathroom or anything..
i would never live in join family because the whole point in getting married is so that you ahve your own place. if i were to live in joint fmaily, i would never get married.
i would never live in join family because the whole point in getting married is so that you ahve your own place. if i were to live in joint fmaily, i would never get married.
Nice...at least you have clear priorities......lets hope you can find such a man
ther is no harm living in joint family , i wish i could hav such a big family of at least 10 to 20 membersss ... its sound lik sooo much funnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn.... :@:
Nice...at least you have clear priorities......lets hope you can find such a man
its that much hard & big expection that a wife ask for a seprat private & being indepent?
realy im not understanding why most of men& also some women raise joint system this much & relate it to care & respect!
care & repect will have meaning if only the guy who is asking his wife to come & live with his parents(in case they r healthy & wealthy mashhal) then if his wife ask him same he would feel same to go & live with respect & love to his in-laws!
more than all i feel most ppl who r after joint system is better to say we want our wife adopt with us! not saying leaving parents is bla bla! cuz girl is also leaving her parents! rather may even she wont have any brother but yet i dont think so any groom will live in laws wether they have son or not maybe for caring in their needy time ...
but not in their healthy & wealthy time even though if they dont have son & they guy may have other brothers also!
i agree with you..i notice that too. guys who grow up in the US, Canada or UK, dont live with parents once they get married and independant
where guys who move from Pakistan or who lives in Pakistan, would live with their parents..
i dont understand why its like that
cuz they r adopted in a new culture where life style is diffrent...
but i hope so all muslim men will learn more abt their own culture also to take advantages of both cultures...to get good points of west & leave bad points of their country culture cuz for sure our cultures r not that much match with islam!
^ i will not get into that discussion.....but my point about clear priorities was that mostly the women posting here........they want to marry someone who wants to live with parents.....and then they complain about it.......so like i said.....if you can't live with his parents...don't marry such a person..plain and simple
