Re: why joint,why seprate???
For God sake can you stop painting Pakistani women as some oppressed creatures? Do you have anything better to stay other than painting them as silent victims? You are seriously coming across as a very disrespectful and cunning person with your gross generalisation and half baked criticism of Pakistani cultural.
Dude by your posts, seems like you know jack about Pakistan so before spewing the same crap about women being ‘puhsed’ or forced to live with her husband’s evil ass parents, I think you need to know a thing or two about our social and economical set up.
In Pakistan its ridiculously expensive to afford a house that too in a respectable area, you cannot expect an average 25+ year old guy to be financially stable enough to provide you a comfortable life from the scratch. I’m a girl, I’d rather live in my husband’s family house in a typical middle class areas of Lahore than live a small ****hole of some ghetto for sake of having the opportunity to have open making out sessions with my husband. I rather save the money for long term advantage. Yes I am Pakistani and I know that even affording a rental property in respectable areas of Pakistan is not everyone’s cup of tea. Things maybe differnet in Iran…I’m not gonna dispute that.
You need to look from woman’s point of view, if her husband has a big family house in a respectable area, why on earth would she wanna move to a ghetto area for sake of privacy’? In Pakistan we also have something called status qou, settling for less than what the joint system is offering you is not an option for many. Most people in Pakistan ‘accept’ joint family system in Pakistan (quit over using using the word ‘force’, seems like this the new word you’ve learnt) for their own safety and as a base for future financial mobility.
If you want to earn respect from the community you are about to adopt, I suggest attempting to at least understand why things are the way they are would really help.