Re: why joint,why seprate???
Was it you who was going all oh I can disclose my country’s name, my husband said so, I’m following my husband’s orders? If you on your husband’s order cannot disclose your country’s name, why can’t a Pakistani wife move in with her husband’s parents upon his request? I think you need to follow your own famous ‘logic’ in answering that question. Don’t try to act all innocent. You know, our culture also encourage women to respect their husband’s wishes as well.
Besides, define ‘logic’? If you can come with a logic not to stay with inlaws, doesn’t mean there’s no logic that favours living in laws. You make your own logic for your preference. There’s no textbook answers to such situations. As with Islam, find me evidence that goes against the idea of living in a joint family system.
All in all, we have some cultural norms which we are programmed to follow without really thinking that its the best or the worst. You don’t need to get so caught up in this if you proudly claim to have nothing to do with them. Pakistan is a culturally very rich and diverse country, best thing is to acknowledge this fact even if you can’t be arsed to appreciate it. Life will be easy.