Re: why joint,why seprate???
Who decides what is “best” in our culture? What you are referring as ‘negetive’ (joint family system) here is also considered the most cherished aspect of our culture. You are just too stubborn to respect this aspect of our culture and appreciate the good side of such practice (yes it does exist). I don’t know why you are so hell bent of denouncing Pakistani culture in the name of Islam?
Fair enough if anyone doesn’t agree with such norms, but can we get over the fantasy and anthusiasm of radicalising the norms just because we don’t agree with them? Yes vast majority of Pakistanis are Muslims but we also have a unique cultural identity and norms as well, which can be so according to the spirit of Islam as long we put an effort into doing it right. Believing in joint family system doesn’t make us any less Muslim!