or Sara may b u should hav a large gathering of fiends n inlaws n let ur hubby do most of the dishes(cooking) n u just do the salad,cleaning n arranging...then u'll see their faces.
with me my husband doesn't help me all the time but specially when we invite like 3-4 families he likes doing 1-2 dishes as he doesn't like cleaing or looking after kids for long. it was when my inlaws came over in ramadan i was expecting then n was due at the end of ramadan. so instead of hiring help He used to help me prepare Ifftari.Still i used to do more while my MIL would just cut fruit for the fruit chat n run away.After delivery again my MIL would just do nothing so my husband took charge of the kitchen n i took complete rest for 1 week.But when they went back to Pak they said negative things to family there.n when we heard them it really hurts.
No need to get hurt. I'm sure when they told those negative things people probably wondered themselves "why did the husband need to help when the MIL was right there?" if the MILs a** hurts to see her son working, she should get her lazy bones up and so some work .. or better shut up! ..
In my family guys really dont do much indeed. My dad used to live alone, so he can cook and stuff and I remember when we were younger he used to help my mum if she was sick or so. But now there are loads of extra hands so he doesnt really do much .. My broz are able to take care of themselves, but during 12-hours work everyday, we dont really demand them to come home and cook. So I've never really heard any negativity in my own family, but I can imagine if my bhabhi made my brother clean the kitchen there would probably be some talks in the extended family lolz ..