when they see a husband helping his wife in the kitchen esp cooking thing.isn't it a cute thing something that bonds u together?
but i see most ppl getting uneasy with such scenes.inlaws r the number one anti husband helping in kitchen group but even friends will comment like hes juro ka ghulam or shes not capable enuf(Sughhar)How will u react to such comments?
what i think...my husband studied here, so he lived alone...so he is used to do his own stuff...helping with me in the kitckehn etc its not a problem...but that doesn't mean i make him clean the bathroom, or broom the flooor etc...sirf kitchen tuk is fine with me... I dont get any reation from ppl as my familym, friends know that i myself work full time. and i also think that there is no harm husband helpping ...friend can say watever they want...i don't give a damn.
The only thing i make him do is take out the trash. Sometimes if i have a long day, ill ask him to wash a few dishes or chop some veggies so they're ready by the time i get home and i can cook. but i think i hardly ask him to do much and I dont remember hearing anybody bug us about it.
or Sara may b u should hav a large gathering of fiends n inlaws n let ur hubby do most of the dishes(cooking) n u just do the salad,cleaning n arranging...then u'll see their faces.
with me my husband doesn't help me all the time but specially when we invite like 3-4 families he likes doing 1-2 dishes as he doesn't like cleaing or looking after kids for long.
it was when my inlaws came over in ramadan i was expecting then n was due at the end of ramadan. so instead of hiring help He used to help me prepare Ifftari.Still i used to do more while my MIL would just cut fruit for the fruit chat n run away.After delivery again my MIL would just do nothing so my husband took charge of the kitchen n i took complete rest for 1 week.But when they went back to Pak they said negative things to family there.n when we heard them it really hurts.
Funny enough, my in laws wouldn’t say this stuff (well i don’t think they would) but i don’t doubt my own family members who would think this way..esp if we go to pak..
the thing is my FIL makes breakfast every morning while my MIL just watches morning shows n my SIL’s husband would help her regularlySo they hav really nothing to b jealous of but still they can’t tolerate my husband doing same thing.
or Sara may b u should hav a large gathering of fiends n inlaws n let ur hubby do most of the dishes(cooking) n u just do the salad,cleaning n arranging...then u'll see their faces.
with me my husband doesn't help me all the time but specially when we invite like 3-4 families he likes doing 1-2 dishes as he doesn't like cleaing or looking after kids for long.
it was when my inlaws came over in ramadan i was expecting then n was due at the end of ramadan. so instead of hiring help He used to help me prepare Ifftari.Still i used to do more while my MIL would just cut fruit for the fruit chat n run away.After delivery again my MIL would just do nothing so my husband took charge of the kitchen n i took complete rest for 1 week.But when they went back to Pak they said negative things to family there.n when we heard them it really hurts.
No need to get hurt. I'm sure when they told those negative things people probably wondered themselves "why did the husband need to help when the MIL was right there?" if the MILs a** hurts to see her son working, she should get her lazy bones up and so some work .. or better shut up! ..
In my family guys really dont do much indeed. My dad used to live alone, so he can cook and stuff and I remember when we were younger he used to help my mum if she was sick or so. But now there are loads of extra hands so he doesnt really do much .. My broz are able to take care of themselves, but during 12-hours work everyday, we dont really demand them to come home and cook. So I've never really heard any negativity in my own family, but I can imagine if my bhabhi made my brother clean the kitchen there would probably be some talks in the extended family lolz ..
when they see a husband helping his wife in the kitchen esp cooking thing.isn't it a cute thing something that bonds u together?
but i see most ppl getting uneasy with such scenes.inlaws r the number one anti husband helping in kitchen group but even friends will comment like hes juro ka ghulam or shes not capable enuf(Sughhar)How will u react to such comments?
There are actually people who think these things?! Either they're still living under a rock or I am..!
As a bachelor, my dad used to live with a chef before marrying my mom. So, he learned how to cook........and really well, too. My dad can make biryani, kababs, nihari, daal, korma, baked chicken, grilled chicken, chicken corn soup, fried fish, and several other meat dishes. And whenever we have a party at our home, my dad ALWAYS helps my mom in the kitchen with the cooking and cleaning even. It's really cool because it's like my mom and dad work** side by side** the whole day. And even when the guests arrive, my dad helps with warming the food and making the chai and serving the men's side at least. My dad also cooks on the weekends, so my mom gets a break:) People enjoy my dad's cooking and I'm proud of him!
And my dad's family knows that he cooks and they are not against it all. There's nothing wrong with it all. Many of the great chefs in the world are men. I've heard women ** criticize other women's husbands/fathers for being **"feminine" because they know how to cook.............and I BELIEVE it's a case of SOUR GRAPES and JEALOUSY on their part.
, my dad ALWAYS helps my mom in the kitchen with the cooking and cleaning even. It's really cool because it's like my mom and dad work** side by side** the whole day. And even when the guests arrive, my dad helps with warming the food and making the chai and serving the men's side at least. My dad also cooks on the weekends, so my mom gets a break:) People enjoy my dad's cooking and I'm proud of him!]
aww so sweet.i hope my kids says same thing about us when they grow up :))
I think its really cute but in certain situations it makes me feel really uncomfortable. Last year for my cousins wedding we all went to stay with my uncle and auntie, and my auntie would wake up and just expect her husband to make everyones breakfast and sit and do nothing herself. He's be making breakfast for like 20 odd people while she just sat there.
I think its really cute but in certain situations it makes me feel really uncomfortable. Last year for my cousins wedding we all went to stay with my uncle and auntie, and my auntie would wake up and just expect her husband to make everyones breakfast and sit and do nothing herself. He's be making breakfast for like 20 odd people while she just sat there.
I would feel bad if my Aunty had to do that too without any help.
Admittedly, I would feel much more uncomfortable if it was just my uncle :-/
I can imagine if my bhabhi made my brother clean the kitchen there would probably be some talks in the extended family lolz ..
In all fairness, unless the bhabhi herself is working full time, or ggoing to school full time or taking care of kids the whole day or is sick , then she really shouldn't be asking the hubby clean up after he comes home from a full day of work..
