Then his parents will be happy for their son to marry a Pathan girl… BUT, if a Punjabi girl wants to marry a Pathan boy, her parents don’t want that to happen.
And if a Pathan boy wants to marry a Punjabi girl, his parents will allow this, but if a Pathan girl wants to marry a Punjabi boy, her parents will NOT allow this?
So the boy can marry a girl out of his ethnicity, but a girl cannot do so.
I am generalising, but i want to know why this is? Who has the answers?
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their parents have the answer :)
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It has been said that pathan boys are famous for their aggressiveness and anger more than the pathan girls. It's a prejudice but that's what usually the parents in our society use to think.
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^ If this is true, it is only bcos their OWN parents brought them up to b like that!
Im pathan...arey yar srk's(shahrukh khan) father was also pathan.
Depends ...These days ppl are very liberal .Koi kuch nahi bolta
Then his parents will be happy for their son to marry a Pathan girl... BUT, if a Punjabi girl wants to marry a Pathan boy, her parents don't want that to happen.
And if a Pathan boy wants to marry a Punjabi girl, his parents will allow this, but if a Pathan girl wants to marry a Punjabi boy, her parents will NOT allow this?
So the boy can marry a girl out of his ethnicity, but a girl cannot do so.
I am generalising, but i want to know why this is? Who has the answers?
Turning our life experience into a general rule again, are we ? :D
Turning our life experience into a general rule again, are we ? :D
Aap punjabi ho?
Chipko bola tha na...Chorne wali nahi ho itni aasani se.
Ehsan bhai sahab to pata nahi kya soochte hain?
Kitne types k mod bana rakhe hain...Arey bhai main bohot achi mod prove hoti.
Chipko bola tha na...Chorne wali nahi ho itni aasani se.
ghalti ho gayee chipkoo bol ke .. main asal main Crazy Glue bolna chah rahaa thaa aap ko, Murawaat main khamosh reh gaya
every caste/ethnicity/birdari considers marrying a girl out a step down...
its not as simple as pathan/punjabi...
i know pathans who are more than willing to give their daughters to punjabis who are rajputs/jatts/maliks but not to every punjabi birdari
i know rajputs who would not give their daughters to jatts
afridi pathans are less likely to give their daughters to say khattaks
tribal pathans are less likely to give their daughters to pathans from settled areas..
the list goes on.....
Turning our life experience into a general rule again, are we ? :D
TLK, what do u mean, please explain.
Who has the answers?
Only Smarties!
You should know this luv! Its so obvious!
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^ Was waiting for some one to say that one!
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Having met and lived with certain Pathan males, I would definitely NOT want my daughter (if I had one) to marry one! The reasons are obvious. They are too regressive, backward and known to get physical.
**It has been said **that pathan boys are famous for their aggressiveness and anger more than the pathan girls. It's a prejudice but that's what usually the parents in our society use to think.
it is said...by who? Don't know, you say? Well THAT is the point.
Stop progressing such idiotic generalizations.
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pathan men are aggressive , handsome and good natured but r in superiority complex a bit ( they have right to b proud). They r beautiful and like beautiful girls thats why do not marry punjabi girls...
But pashtun girls do marry punjabi men.... the reason is that after 1947 pashtuns have got a disease to sell their girls to punjabies....the same pathans who 300 years ago draw support from syed ahmad shaheed because he demand pathan wives for his indian mujahids. also modern and educated girls prefer punjabi boys ( there is a reason 4 it).
in most cases when affrair of pastun girl and boy is revealed, no one marry the girl, so parents marry her in punjab
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I see this thread going in the toilet already.
Then his parents will be happy for their son to marry a Pathan girl... BUT, if a Punjabi girl wants to marry a Pathan boy, her parents don't want that to happen.
And if a Pathan boy wants to marry a Punjabi girl, his parents will allow this, but if a Pathan girl wants to marry a Punjabi boy, her parents will NOT allow this?
So the boy can marry a girl out of his ethnicity, but a girl cannot do so.
I am generalising, but i want to know why this is? Who has the answers?
Good observation!!
I think its fear of unknown + we are more protective of girls.
Girls leave home to live in some one else's house, so it is scary.
Boy bring girl in the house so no problem there.
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Well thats news to me 
Maybe its true in Pakistan or in very cultural Pakistani families living abroad, but most of the families I know are not like this and do not think like this, neither for their girls nor for their boys. I think with education and experience, people are [thankfully] moving away from this tribal/caste mentality
it is stupid cultural BS
It would b good if most families really were not like this, however, i have seen this situation in 3 couples.
One poor man, he is punjabi, wanted to marry a pathan girl from his city in pakistan, decades ago! His parents protested so much, eventually he married a cousin of his and has been unhappy ever since, even after 30 years. The VERY SAME man PROTESTED when his own son wanted to marry a girl of his own choice. He also forced his own daughter to marry her cousin against her will. Where is the sense in that? Would u not have thought he would have learnt from his experience?
Another scenario, punjabi mother and daughter are out shopping in town, bump into a pathan mother and daughter whom they do not know but recognise as pathan from their appearance. Start selling their son to complete strangers, asking for girls hand in marriage! Pathan mum and daughter much shocked, how on earth could these punjabi people even think that a pathan would allow their daughter to get married to one of them???
Another scenario, a punjabi family in uk ended up getting a pathan bride from pakistan. Bride really happy, groom really happy, living with boys family, everyone genuinely happy together, BUT the punjabi cousins of boy are OUTRAGED bcos “how could the boy marry a pathan???”, when the very same cousins were over the moon at one point when they had a “a very fair pathan girl with green eyes” in their sights for their own brother, but it didnt work out.
What madness!