Ok,here is a question that i want to ask all the parents especially.Just say,your grown-up and mature son/daughter comes to you and tells you that he/she likes someone and wants to marry him/her and wants your approval,etc?What would your reaction be like?I think most of the desi parents would just get shocked if their son/daughter comes and tells them anything like that,and usually make an issue out of it.Why is that?
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If its a son, sure why not? They are fully capable of deciding what is best for themselves.
If its a daughter, give her a beating for betraying your trust, lock her up in a room and have her married off to someone 20 years older than her so that she understand what mistakes she was not supposed to make.
ducks
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such mentality of desi parents is really irritating when they behave like this with their daughters especially,when she comes and tells something like that.
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^ What do you expect? They should dance to celebrate their daughter going wild? She better know her limits, says I.
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Well if my friend comes to me and out of the blue tells me he is getting married, i'll pissed off on him, i may not attend his marriage as we suppose to be best friends and i have the right to know if something was going on.
Now if being a friend i am shocked, then being a parent, teaching my son/daughter how to walk and talk.... giving them all the trust and confidence, suddenly comes and TELL me that they are going to married with someone, then yes i'll be shocked and will wonder, where did i lost the trust of my beloved daughter/son, that they never bother to tell me that whats going on in their life.
Always Remember parents are human too, they can make mistake, but it is them who have given up their wishes to make you a successful person, and you go and TELL them the biggest development of your life.. this is simply rude or i may say cruel..
Yes you can go to parents and discuss the possibilities of getting married, they are your parents, they helped you when none of your other so-called well-wisher was around, they nourished u when you were not able to help urself, they cleaned you with love and passion... and atleast they deserve is to know whats going on in ur life.
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Daughters' marriages should be arranged when they are very young, so that they know who they belong to and dont go astray.
Says the J.
oh well?:aq:
I don’t really think all girls go wild.There’s nothing wrong in it if a girl starts liking someone and wants to get married with that person.
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The question is not what a girl does - the question is what the Jaanwar says.
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its about how the parents have brought up the son or daughter...........
its not necessarily abt going wild and then coming to your parents and asking for approval.........
Jaanwar.......i would agree with you not many parents would look enthusiastically upon a daughter coming home n sayng she wants to marry someone because the first thing that comes to mind is that she has done sumthing wrong however there are parents eho do trust their children and their upbringing to knoe that they would never cross the line and do accept and look into a child's request for approval .....
Daughters' marriages should be arranged when they are very young, so that they know who they belong to and dont go astray.
Says the J.
What if you do that to your daughter, and she grows up and doesn't like the person you have chosen for her? Would you force your daughter into a marriage she doesn't want to?
What if you do that to your daughter, and she grows up and doesn't like the person you have chosen for her? Would you force your daughter into a marriage she doesn't want to?
Yup, either I will marry her off to a stinky hairy old fart, or shoot her point-blank.
Says the J.
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and you think it’s something great which you would do?:aq:
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^ come onnn, your heart agrees with me, stop pretending. You would so love to watch her go with the dirty old stinker, wont you?
This is typical desi mentality at work. I know you are playing with waterfall but sadly you are pointing out at a bitter reality in desi community.
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It really depends on how educated and open-minded your parents are. Really I dont see why that should an issue at ALL!.
What should matter is who they're talking about, what kinna persona is he/she and focus on that.
IF they are following Islam properly, then they should know choosing a spouse of your choice is your right!
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Jaanwar …you are so gonna have a bunch of daughters
AND they will twist you round their tiny lil fingers 
If its a son, sure why not? They are fully capable of deciding what is best for themselves.
If its a daughter, give her a beating for betraying your trust, lock her up in a room and have her married off to someone 20 years older than her so that she understand what mistakes she was not supposed to make.
ducks
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:CareBear:
True said Mirch bhai, this certainly is a bitter reality.