If only you knew how much my lil niece twists me round her tiny lil fingers 
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Aap ke liye dua ker rahi thi ke pyari pyari betiyaan hoo :@:
Ji ji, so sweet of you… I’m all awwwwwww 
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:@:
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My reaction if i was in the parent's position would be a little anger, but open mindedness. If the son/daughter truly like this person, I would not marry them off to someone else and make some other poor guy/girl suffer from being in a marriage of unrequited love. You ask why do people make an issue of it? probably because the son/daughter hid it from the parents for a long time. Why do the kids hide their relationships from their parents? If there is some interest between a guy/girl, parents should be involved right away. None of this dating for a year keeping it hidden from mom and dad, then telling them they want to get married. If the marriage doesn't go through, the kid now has to deal with the emotional baggage. Parents wonder if they guy their daughter chose just wants to take advantage of her or already has, or in the case of a son, they wonder if the girl just wants the their son for his money, compliant personality, etc.
They also may have raised their kid telling them it's wrong to hang out with boys/girls and now they find out their son/daughter has been seeing someone behind their backs. Its easy enough to feel totally betrayed. I know the only thing the daughter/son can see is the person they want to marry, but please look at the parents' perspective, the people who gave all and raised this person. Islamically you have a right to choose your spouse, but you also have an obligation to respect your parents. How do you show respect by just telling them out of the blue that you have made the biggest decision of your life and you didn't think it was important to involve them in the decision making process?
Also, when you say a mature person, do you mean a college-aged person? Because to me, a college aged person is not mature; breaking the news to your parents if you are still below 22 will not be taken well. A mature person would be someone who is not living off mom and dad and have been on their own for a while. In this case, I don't think a parent would be shocked at all, they would probably be relieved. If you still live with mom and dad, you have an obligation to tell them what is going on in your life.
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my reaction will b shocked too.but there is no guarantee if ur daughter find some1 for herself or u find some one for her.its all abt luck and destiny so its better if he is nice guy got her marry wid him.i want to ask from janwar ur location is wild and free y ur daughter cant b
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My family is not like this, so Thanks God i dont have to think about these questions 
I can introduce anyone i want to my family! But i only introduce whom i think are worth it!
If its a son, sure why not? They are fully capable of deciding what is best for themselves.
If its a daughter, give her a beating for betraying your trust, lock her up in a room and have her married off to someone 20 years older than her so that she understand what mistakes she was not supposed to make.
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Im sorry how ever old u are- i think ur Nickname quite well suits ur mentality!
I think when it comes to son's desi parents are like OH BOY YAYY!!
but wen it comes to a girl its a big no no and a big deal - the world comes to an end- and i hate that- thank god my parents are understanding and they accepted who i chose- and thats because the guy is capable of taking care of me- very smart, responsible and career's set and at a good age- and they saw how he would be for me- its not liek id bring a CHICHORA guy who has no education no job and tell them i wanna marry him- thats when parents flip out bc then there like ok my daughters blinded by love! now those girls are stupid in my opinion- other than that- there are more mens rights and thats not fair!!!! :(
Gaawd woman, because I am a MAN. Not very complicated now is it?
Snazzy: Your posts normally make a lot of sense, at least the last one I read did. Try splitting your stuff into paragraphs though, I swear I couldnt get myself to read this one :-/
Im sorry how ever old u are- i think ur Nickname quite well suits ur mentality!
I think when it comes to son's desi parents are like OH BOY YAYY!! but wen it comes to a girl its a big no no and a big deal - the world comes to an end- and i hate that- thank god my parents are understanding and they accepted who i chose- and thats because the guy is capable of taking care of me- very smart, responsible and career's set and at a good age- and they saw how he would be for me- its not liek id bring a CHICHORA guy who has no education no job and tell them i wanna marry him- thats when parents flip out bc then there like ok my daughters blinded by love! now those girls are stupid in my opinion- other than that- there are more mens rights and thats not fair!!!! :(
Nothing wrong with my mentality woman. It has to do with me being the man and my daughter being the woman doing something that I, being the man, do not think is appropriate for her, being the woman. Simple now, isnt it?
PS: Again, being however old is not the point here, being a man is. You wouldn't know.
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From experience I can tell u when I told my mom about my husband she wasn't shocked and instead listened to everything I had to say and asked a lit of questions about him, she also sort of knew him and his family. When she told dad he hesitated but only because I'm his daughter and he's protective and guess felt a lil sad that I was old enough to get married.
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Snazzy: Your posts normally make a lot of sense, at least the last one I read did. Try splitting your stuff into paragraphs though, I swear I couldnt get myself to read this one :-/
Thanks, I did have it split, but i kept getting logged out for some reason, so i had to retype... I guess i can edit it now.
Haha, went back to edit it, yeah it was LONG...
Sali786:I think when it comes to son's desi parents are like OH BOY YAYY!!
This is so not true. Parents think that if their son is of a high profession and generally good, trusting guy, that some girl has seen these qualities and wants to do nothing more than snatch him up before some other girl grabs his attention. And they disapprove of his choice in that the girl is supposedly not good enough.
Happened to my cousin- he was a lawyer, wanted to marry an arab girl, parents were like no way, she can't understand our culture, you are innocent to her ways etc. so he broke it off. 6 years later, he's still not married...rejects every person he sees, no1 is "good enough". His mom would always tell my mom to watch out for girls who grab the good guys, but her main purpose in sending her daughter to college was so that she could attract a good doctor for a husband!
